Is it possible for a male who's been masturbating to porn for 20 years to just give it up and still be able to get himself off on is own?
I believe if your imagination cannot trump online material.. Then that is sad. Fantasies bought forth by imagination are always better. =] Mind you this is a mature step you're taking with your relationship and wife. Good for you. =] assuming I'm speaking to the same person who posted about marriage and porn. If not ignore me. =p
When I worked nightshift security I got to come home to an empty house with way too much time on my hands. Before long I was in that porn addiction stage people refer to, always watching porn. But it was a trapped habit, once I broke it the spell was over. So yes I believe you can beat it. I also realised what's the point wasting my time on porn when I had my own girl to play with.
^yes, that is exactly what i was doing. i'm not capable of resisting a spelling error that actually changes the literal meaning of a post.
Yeah, I'm the same person! I don't have an addiction (use porn 5-10, 4-5x a week) and porn doesn't run or affect my life. Except now since my wife just found it and is taking it hard that i would "disrespect" women by viewing it. I havenmt stopped yet but I wonder if I even can. Like I said, I'm not addicted to porn but if anything I'm addictedto orgasms. Is a daily orgasm even an addiction or just normal? This is why I'm confused about what to do. My wife has never been able to provide me the sexual gratification I want. At best 3x a month. At worst, just once. I've never cheated on her. Just used porn to assist in the orgasm and speed it up. I want sex with her more than any other release but if she's not there for me, I use porn. She's upset about the porn or the idea of porn but not offering to satisfy me to help me stop. Even if she did ramp up efforts, there's no guarentee it would be to the level I need. Is this selfish? I'm not asking her to do anything she doesn't want. On my end, I'm working on the romance thing since thats what she needs to get going.
My own fantasies don't seem to work. Maybe its due to 20 yrars of porn or maybe I'm unimaginative. Either way, I'll spend 20 min soaping my rod sore in the shower only to give up, go put on a vid, and finish off in 2 minutes.
Of course it is possible, get some discipline. I don't like to use the word loser but people who can't lose their porn habit or can't get off anymore without it....
I have barely ever done it without in my whole life. Aside from when I'm with a woman. Thats never been an issue
For guys having an orgasm is like shaving. You can have someone else do it if you trust them, you can pay for someone else to do it, but more often than not, you just have to do it yourself. If you don't do it often enough, you start to get more animal-like. I see porn, tasteful non-abusive (although I'm not so naive to not know that it's sometimes abusive behind the scenes) as just a small catalyst. For me, orgasm intensity goes, from least to most -> hand & oil+imagination, hand & oil+porn, sex with wife. IMHO say you don't have to give it up entirely, just know when to say "when".
Well my wife may have come to that realization. She seems to realize she can't change my thoughts on the matter and if I view it or not. Also she recognized she needs to increase her sex frequency. I feel a little guilty but, hey, win-win right?
I have to disagree with your order. My wife gives me the best orgasms. Plus we both watch porn, together and alone. Also, hand &imagination usually ends up with me imagining her to make me cum if I can't.
