porn vs sex

Discussion in 'Masturbation' started by danp92, Oct 2, 2013.

  1. danp92

    danp92 Guest

    I've been dealing with this situation for a while now and I want some points of view from other people. I am 21 years and until now I had a few sex partners but nothing satisfied me as much as watching porn. I mean that I get no problem with sex. I can easily get it up, and I can last a lot in bed for example currently I am seeing this girl who is very opened at sex (anal, role play anything) and today we fucked for almost 40 minutes without me to cum and she had 3 or 4 orgasms which that makes my blessing also my curse because if I watch porn and I try I can easily cum within two minutes with the same satisfaction if not more as when I am having sex. I am not worried because I am still young and I hate relationships and I know that this might be a problem if I decide to get into one, but am I the only one who feels that porn is better than sex? I know some of you would bring arguments that sex is more than just fucking (feelings, intimacy,love) but I don't believe in that kind of stuff or at least I didn't look for them in another person yet. Please leave your opinion about what you think and if you still feel or felt sometimes the same way.
     
  2. monkjr

    monkjr Senior Member

    Well it all depends in what you're looking for in life.

    If you know what you want, and you just want to get off, and you find relationships and the sex that goes with it is a hassle compared to the alternatives, for you there's your answer.

    And the answer to your OP, would probably mean others are in a similar situation to yourself.

    Logic and probability says you probably aren't alone in this view.

    Does this answer your question?
     
  3. Irminsul

    Irminsul Valkyrie

    The difference between porn and sex is like the difference between a physical copy of a cd and an mp3. I don't know about anyone else, but I'm sure left feeling more satisfied with my physical album cover and all the fun bits and pieces that accompany them nowadays.
     
  4. Willy Blue

    Willy Blue Senior Member

    Porn is not real, its manufactured, edited and controlled. You can have sex for the sheer pleasure and thrill of having sex and you can make love to someone you love, two slightly different things even if the end result is the same. Sex should be fun, enjoyable and satisfying, thats not porn though, porn is not for the participants its for the audience, dont blur the lines.
     
  5. usedtobehoney

    usedtobehoney Senior Member

    Maybe porn is just easier for you, I think sometimes fantasy is easier than reality, also maybe you're not quite as liberated with another person and that's why you don't enjoy it as much.

    As for me, there are sometimes when I prefer to fantasize, maybe I am just not in the mood to make the effort to deal with the physical performance and all that, but overall I am way more satisfied with sex than fantasy and as a rule, I just don't like porn at all.
     
  6. danp92

    danp92 Guest

    actually I am very opened in bedroom and comfortable with my body and not shy at all.. I take my role as the dominant male and I love that and that would be probably the only reason I am having sex because if it wasn't for that I would probably prefer to go watch porn and jerk off haha.
     
  7. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

    Whatever works for you. Although, I find myself wondering, why make this thread? Why announce and justify your position to the world?
     
  8. kurona

    kurona Member

    keep on fucking girls and keep on watching porn too. dude... 40 minutes really aint a lot. when youre reaching 3 hours maybe thats the thing to consider. and i dont really get it coz there are women out there who like guys who dont cum so fast. like if youd cum in 3 minutes on me i would freakin slap you...
     
  9. usedtobehoney

    usedtobehoney Senior Member

    True what kurona said. 40 minutes is a disappointment for me, but I'm highly experienced and don't have sex with people who aren't special to me...anyways, maybe being in this role as the dominant male is your issue. I mean you're not dominant when you're surrendering to porn writers, directors and actors performances. Maybe you should have sex and allow the woman to dominate you.
     
  10. danp92

    danp92 Guest

    @Duck

    cause it feels wrong to want porn more than sex and I was hopping for some advises on how to change that...

    thanks for the answer I am going to try that :)
     
  11. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

    Change your desires, or how you feel about them?

    I've felt that way at times; but I think it's a matter of habitualization more than anything
     
  12. PineMan

    PineMan Senior Member

    While I agree that nearly all 'Amateur' porn is normal Professional porn, calling itself Amateur - usually giving itself away by the 3rd parties (or more) doing the filming, as well as specialist lighting, and nearly always pulling out for the 'money shot'. However, fortunately there are still a few genuine Home-Made Amateur sites, where members get to share their own videos. Sure, the quality of the filming can be pretty dire at times - but that's what real Amateur is all about.
     
  13. hardnusa38

    hardnusa38 Guest

    Very interesting post.. i myself started watching porn at young age! Been married for 5yrs and only got off twice so far with wife due to a spinal surgery i had at younger age.. she said its cool but i can only cum with hand job. Me/her.. now here is my question.. i enjoy porn, but love sex.. so if watching porn is ok.. why not masturbate with a female.. i meen theres no touching unless yall cant help but do it!! Lol
     
  14. hornyjohn

    hornyjohn Member

    I prefer porn to my current partner - which I am sorry to say is the woman I married. I love her, but she does not get me off as well as watching porn and masturbating does. It's hard to compete with the sheer volume and variety that porn has. That said, there is no substitute for actual human physical contact. I like both. I guess what it boils down to is if you crave variety and like things that your partner is not open to or willing to explore (or even discuss) then you will find pleasure in porn and the fantasy of women who will do "anything" and "everything". For me, porn is an open-ended explorative and fun fantasy world. Sex with my wife is always the same, and very infrequent as a result.
     
  15. Hi Hornyjohn, it's a shame that your sex life with your wife is not as varied as you would like it to be. Has it always been like that, even before you married? I don't know if i am lucky, or if my long term sexual partners are a reflection of myself. I have been in 3 longterm relationships 3 years, 4 years and 12 years (5 married) with my wife. These three partners we literally as ready and willing as me, second one kinda fizzled out.. but all have been more than willing to participate in all aspects of sex, anal, sucking, fucking.. you name it, there has never been a problem. Even my partners inbetween, whether regular fucks or one night stands 30-40 have always been willing partners in all aspects of sex.

    I am curious to this as we are around a similar age. How do you approach the subject with your wife?

    Cheers
     
  16. hornyjohn

    hornyjohn Member

    Sex with my wife has been lackluster for 5 years - so yes even before we were married. Its a long story, but I married her because I love her and I wanted to make our relationship work. It was long distance before that and we did not have an option to live together before marraige (like i said its a long complicated story). Sex was amazing in the beginning and I hoped we could bring that back. But her weight gain is considerable and she does not look like she used to. I am ok with some natural gain with age, but she has let herself go and seems unable or unwilling to do anything about it - except to make hollow promises. It really bothers me. Ive tried to encourage and take steps to fix things. But sex has been exactly the same and frankly boring for many years. I look at other women all the time and think about what I would like to do, but i have never cheated. I love my family and wouldnt risk it. So here I am in a sexless marraige looking for answers.
     
  17. Duck

    Duck quack. Lifetime Supporter

  18. danp92

    danp92 Guest

    since I started this thread I tried not to watch porn but that didn't work for me. I decided to still watch porn but something more amateur and that worked pretty well for me. My theory: If the porn I am watching is not as good as the sex I am having then I would enjoy sex more haha.
     
  19. *MAMA*

    *MAMA* Perfectly Imperfect

    In my opinion, porn and sex are in two completely different categories. Porn is meant for self gratification. No feelings, no intimacy, just for getting off. Sex is (well, should be at least) supposed to be for mutual pleasure. It's a shared experience where giving and receiving go hand in hand.
     
  20. tuesdaystar

    tuesdaystar Interneter

    Wrong? I don't know if it's so wrong. I'd say it's pretty mild on the sexual deviance scale.

    It just seems kind of sad to prefer yanking on your boner and watching other people have unremarkable sex.

    But maybe that's because you just want to get off, maybe you're not much of a "feeler"

    People, especially men, tend to get a lot of satisfaction out of pleasing their partners.
     

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