Popularity

Some people are always being called up, some people have to do the calling.

I've met people who were total douchebags, but more popular than Jesus. Then I've met people I thought were awesome, yet they didn't seem to have others running down their door.

It seems like certain people are naturally popular. Why do you think that is? What makes someone popular? Are you one of these people?

 

I am popular, but I don't want to be popular.

People have learned not to call me unless it's important over time. If I want to hang out with them... I'll give them a call.

I'm popular because I'm a badass.

 

Ok, but badass is a bit vague. Why exactly do you think you are so popular?

 

I don't really know..

I suppose someone really "popular" has to have that X-factor that makes people want to call them up or hang out with them all the time. Maybe they make people feel good about themselves, maybe they're absolutely hilarious, or maybe they intimidate people into feeling like they have to do that.

Because someone is awesome doesn't mean they're going to be popular. I don't know why.. I guess some people don't like all-round 'cool' people. Or maybe the awesome people just like to be by themselves a lot?

No, I'm not one of those people.

 

I'm quite popular. When people first meet me they want to be around me a lot, I assume because I'm a fairly genuine guy, which is a novelty to people. Then when I stop returning their calls, they realize I have weird "health problems" or I start talking about death, suicide or animal sex in public, most of them get a little freaked out and I am not popular anymore. This is how I weed out the genuine people from the fake ones. I still do get a lot of people from school/church/work etc. trying to invite me to parties etc. and sometimes I go out of respect for people I like, and not because I want to. Sometimes I want to. I'm kind of a lost cause as far as being social is concerned.

 

We are all addicted to the approval of others.

Some people realize this and consciously manipulate the people around them to maximize the amount of approval they receive. There's a barter system involved, and the more you spread that approval around, the less it means. And the more it means to you, the less people want to give it to you. If you just approve of everyone, you'll end up with everyone knowing you and saying they like you-- but never really being there for you. And if you approve of too few people, everyone will think you're a jerk.

It's all a balancing act, and you've got to want it. The game really has to matter to you, it has to be important.

Otherwise, you'll just end up with friends that like you for who you are and a few other people who dislike you for who you are.

 

The "game" does not matter to me and it is not important.

I have a few good friends around which I can be myself and I keep everybody else at a distance.

 

i don`t know. i always have offers to go here and there. i dont think i am popular.I know a lot of people i have few frineds and i can have good time with almost anybody.

 

I'm somewhere between Michael Jackson and a cave troll.

 

LULZ. i assume your speaking of yourself and the mice in your pocket?

i pretty much hate most people. the last thing i want to do is seek approval from someone. that could serve to draw them closer to me and i certainly dont want that with 99% of the population..

 

Well, instant popularity is obviously based purely on looks. I've thought about this a lot myself, and why some people just have others falling all over them. However, after the immediate liking of someone, it becomes more about their personality.

Eg. I had this friend who was one of the most popular people I have ever known. For awhile, I was jealous of him, until I realized why he was so popular. It was because he was extremely manipulative, and pretty much just a huge liar. But he was cute as hell, so most people overlooked his flaws for his pretty face. There was also something very charismatic about him, but I am one of the few people who broke through his mask.

Which is why I'm popular, in my own way. People just like me. I don't know why, or what I do to make people feel that way. Usually for me though, it's not right away. People have to get to know me a little bit first, but then they end up loving me everytime. I don't mean to sound conceited, but I probably do anyway. :cheers2:

 

Hot, Rich or Talented, ie usually non-boring, not that it really matters in the end, they are popular cos other people want something from them

The valueable people are the ones that know you are a loser, yet still like hanging out with you

 

:iagree:

 

I approve of your loner stance!

 

I would say I'm pretty well known, not necessarily popular. I'm straightup, genuine, funny, nice, and fairly outgoing. I have alot of friends, but quite a few people I'm not cool with too.

When I go to parties and shit people are always on some drama. Like 40% of the time the night ends in a series of massive fist fights and I tend to just pick a side and start swingin. I've lost a few friends that way, but whatev. It happens.

 

Hmmm, I don't know, in high school I hung with the so-called popular clique, but I was one of those people who talked to everyone. Never really felt like I fit in a particular group, I was kind of a social butterfly I guess.

At this point in my life, I'm pretty well liked IRL by most people I come in contact with it would seem. I contribute that to me being super friendly with people, making an effort to strike up conversations easily. But I wouldn't consider myself "popular". That sounds kind of juvenile at my age.

 

Usually, that is nobody.

 

Probably because I'm unique and really stand out, even though I don't try to stand out. Maybe because I'm very open and easy to approach, or because I keep it real, yo.

 

My friends and I pride ourselves on being complete and utter losers, and love each other all the more for it.

 

i almost never call because i usually don't feel like doing anything with the people i know. they still call me semi-often.

i guess that makes me popular.