My wife is always suspicious of any other female that is in close proximity to she and I, more so me. I'm just wondering what I did wrong here. A little more than a month ago our church had a women's empowerment weekend full of seminars and things like that. It was posted online and through all of the church's social media accounts. One young girl saw it and showed up. She's not a member of the church but I think she may have been new to our city so she came to check it out. I guess this girl looks to be around 24 or 25, under 30 for sure. And since then this girl has been coming to all of our services. I noticed her that particular weekend since she was a visitor. I was there with a few other guys helping move tables, chairs and doing manual stuff. I may have spoken to the girl in passing. Nothing more than "welcome to our church" or something like that. This past Sunday I was up about to give the welcome and I noticed her come in. One of the ushers walked her to the row my wife and I normally sit on and she sat down just a few chairs from my wife. Nothing out of the ordinary. When I sat down I was on the other end of my wife, to her left, and the girl was to my wife's right a few seats down. Half way through the service my wife turns to me then glances back over at the girl then turns back to me and says, "do you know her?" I looked at her and said, "not really, why do you ask?" My wife then turned her head and wouldn't answer. I know my wife and I immediately saw the wheels in her head turning. Once service was over and we were on the way home I asked her again why did she ask me if I knew that girl. She still would not answer. I then told her that this was the same girl who has been coming to church every sunday since the women's weekend and she actually sat right next to my wife at the other table when they broke for lunch that Saturday. My wife then broke her silence and finally said "oh, that's her? I didn't recognize her." This particular sunday this girl had her hair down instead of up in braids. My wife has this thing to where anytime there's a young / younger woman in close proximity to us then I must know her or I'm trying to get to know her. A hairstyle can change your appearance somewhat but not that much to the point that you don't recognize someone. Of course in my wife's mind this must have been some girl that I apparently was messing with and she just so happened to decide to sit next to my wife during service. Like I told my "girlfriend" to come to church and make sure the ushers sits you right next to me and my wife. I'm kidding there so please do not make more of that than it just being a statement. My wife hadn't made the connection that this girl has been coming to church every sunday since then because my wife sits there with blinders on. She looks forward, not backwards. She doesn't want to get to know anyone other than the few people she speaks to. There are plenty of times during our service when the pastor will tell you to turn around and say something to the person behind you or across the aisle so I can't see how she hadn't noticed this girl sitting in the congregation before. And we do not belong to a mega church with hundreds of members. When the benediction is given my wife makes a beeline straight to the car. I'm a church officer so when we get to church normally I go around and speak to everyone. And after service I like to stand and speak to those who weren't there when we got there or I may have to assist the pastor with something after church. I have always been a very outgoing person and I'm always asked to do something so I am familiar with a lot of the people at church, members as well as visitors. And even after service I'll go to the visitors and welcome them to our church and hope to see them again. I'm a extrovert whereas my wife is an introvert. Maybe it's me but I notice visitors every sunday and can tell when they start coming on the regular. I'm also a church deacon so I have to be familiar with the congregation. Like I said, the most I've probably said to this girl was "welcome to our church", that's it. But to my wife I knew this girl on a more intimate level so she just had to ask. Normally she would sit a few rows behind us but Sunday the usher walked her to our row. My wife told me that she saw me looking in her direction and assumed I knew her. I guess I can't even turn my head to the right to look across the church without her thinking I'm scoping this young girl or some other girl out. We recently had active shooter training at our church so the brothers are trying to be more mindful of all the entry ways into the church and anyone who might look suspicious that we don't know. What did I do wrong here?
A: Married a neurotic. B: fed into it by doing anything more than rolling your eyes at her over silly shit.
