Please! I need analytical help...

i have great trouble just accepting comlpiments and/or gifts from people, i just don't know how to accept them. i always wind up feeling bad for it, or i'd ramble on to try to disregard the compliment. i always wind up feeling akward at the end of this. it sucks!! i could really use some words of wisdom

 

i'm like this, too. i think everyone is, to some degree.

i'm not an expert or anything, so i can't get into depth about how and why it happens. but, all i can say is that you have to think about the fact that people compliment you, and give you gifts because you deserve it. you might not think you do, but you do. or else they wouldn't be doing it. right?

that's all the help i can give. sorry. i'm sure someone else on here can get deeper into it, though.

 

Don't be sorry, thanks for trying to help me

have a wondrous day

 

i have the same problem. like when people tell me im beautiful i get annoyed because i dont agree with them. i mean i appreciate it and all, i just think theyre either stupid or just kissing ass. and then when guys tell me they love me i have no idea what to say because really what good does that do me? its not like they are going to love me forever. i domy best to be nice, its just that it is hard for me to accept compliments as well.

 

Oy, I'm just like that, I can't really accept compliments or praise in any way, I even hate being told happy birthday.

 

Try to look into the persons eyes smile and say thanks. Try practicing in the mirror, it helped me.

 

I always just smile, say thank you, and move onto another subeject. lol
That way I'm not being entirely rude and I can just move on and try to avoid feeling awkward.
I don't know if there is a way to get over it completely unless (like inbloom said) you feel you deserve the gift/compliment.
Which I am sure you do...

 

im the same way, and i think i know why it is

i have a fear of appearing overly proud, so i compensate by appearing overly humble. so when someone complements me i either ignore it or, or well, rarely recieve it the way i should

 

i used to be self-conscious back when i was 14, and couldnm`t recieve compliments.. but i think was purely at that time insecurity.
as for now, i get really uncomfortable abnout recieving gifts, compliments are fine ..no problems there `cause i`m lovely But i just can`t be relaxed about the present thing, because it`s me being open. also i`m aware of their expectations and such. so with me, tis all about openness and that i can`t be ..heh
there`s other things, i`m sure ..very hazey though.

 

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I know what you mean. I know how to come back on you if you insult me. I know how to say thanks when someone gives me something. (I use to turn most things away but I learned that their givingness makes them feel better as people.) You think that you don't deserve it or that people feel sorry for you or even that there is something behind the gift. Just remeber that people can love you and want to see you happy. (It's not always easy to remember but it's true.)

 

yeah , you feel like if you accept a compliment, your all stuck on yourself dontcha...I know I do. Its much easier to let it slide.