please can sombody help me I'm at my wits end. My partner of two years who i love so much has done somthing so bad i am torn in two. One night last week while I was at a friends he was at home with my 19 year old daughter. He seems to think that for some time they have been playing a little game with her knickers. I have known about it and told him it wasn't happening and it was in hisown head she is not up for that kind of thing. Any way it seems he has continued with the whole thing and when i was out last week he went into her room and took a pair of her worn panties and placed them on the table for her to find which she did and she went ballistic. As you can imagine. What do i do i cant imagine life without him and yet life with him will be impossible. She is moving in with her boyfriend this week which was already planned. I am now on my own as he moved, out her boyfriend wont have him in there flat. What are your opinions.:sad:
Hmm. Well obviously u just gotta find a way to get him outta ur life. He sounds like a massive loser. My best suggestion would be to just let ur daughter stay with her new bf. He should be able to take care of her. Meanwhile u need to dump him and find a good man to take care of u an visa versa.
wow if you love you'r girl you should leave him ? if you dont you must love him more than you'r own girl ?
Lady.. If you let some dude perv on your own daughter you Are the problem.. you should have told this cat to hit the bricks while you were throwing bricks at him, at the very first sign of wierdness towards your kids.. You LOVE him?!? .. well he doesn't love you.. and you had better wake up and get some sence.. why would you want to be part of this dudes sickness.
Agreed, keeping that wierdo around is asking for trouble... probably for your daughter. Even now when he's gone and she's moved out.. i'd ask her to keep an eye out for him.. sounds just a little... off.
If you don't dump him your daughter will probably never forgive you. I wouldn't. And your daughter should ALWAYS come first.
Some part of me wants to see this from your boyfriends perspective, but I cant. He has ruined the relationship, and the fact he acted on his thoughts truly indicated how much he thought about his action. If he loved you he would not have done these sexual motivated feelings towards your daughter. depending on his age; I would really like him to see a therapist because these things generally escalate (not that he would do you more harm but he most likely will do someone else more harm). What you decide depends on how much you are willing to risk to help him. The safest bet is to cut him off, but I know I am very put off by therapist and maybe you two could talk about it openly. (hopefully in a way that minimizes any possible harm via cell, or in a discrete public place) or say you will never talk to him if he does not see one, always your safety first.
