My ex-boyfriend slept with his ex-girlfiriend because he was drunk and she called him around two weeks after we had broken up. My boyfriend and I get back toether in January. In February, she calls him and tells him that she is six weeks pregnant. From the time he tells her this to him telling me, he acts funny. I continuously ask him what's wrong and he says nothing. He eventually tells me that he has a confession that he knows will make me leave him but that he didn't cheat on me. Technically, he didn't cheat on me because we weren't together at the time but we were of course still fooling around. We were together 11 months when we broke up the first time. I am shocked and amazed all at the same time. I told him to call her while I was there so I can hear how they talk to one another. He calls her and she tells him that she is keeping the kid and that she doesn't want him. He also told her that I would be joining them at any functions they had for this child. She said that she was cool was that. I told him to ask her that if she wants nothing to do with him then why is she keeping his child. You know what her reason was, because she has been through this before and she doesn't want to go through it again. Yeah yeah!! For the next three weeks, he is acting funny and we are arguing and I am crying and heart broken all at the same time. We don't have sex because I am scared to do anything with him. One day, I just broke up with him and told him that I couldn't do this anymore. I can't deal with baby mama drama. Also, she tells him that somebody is sending her threatening text messages about why is she doing this bull to them. This was before he even told me. My ex is skeptical about even believing that this is his child. Then she sends him messages on myspace telling him that its a boy and her due date. What should I do when the baby pops out? Keep in mind that him and I still deal with each other as lovers but we don't have the title.
It's his baby. Back off and let him be a man and step up to his responsibilities. He chose to have sex, so did she. They both need to deal with this....TOGETHER. You were broken up at the time. It was fair game. Why do you want him to call her in front of you? If you're not together anymore....it's none of your business how he talks to anyone. If you emotionally can't handle the fact that he's a guy....and isn't going to stay faithful to you....as an ex....and he IS going to have sex with other women, you don't need to be in any kind of a relationship with him. What should YOU do when the baby comes out? Let him be a dad.
He doesn't deal with her. When I asked him to call her, him and i were still together. I was still his girlfriend and I needed that so I could decipher whether or not they are still are into each other. He doesn't want to be a father to this child. I feel bad for the child because he's innocent and his parents aint shit. My ex doesn't want to be there when its boy or nothing. He just wants to get the paternity test.
Well if your ex doesn't want to step up and be a Dad then that's his issue, not yours. I know it sucks and you wish he would take rsponsibility etc, but there's nothing you can do really especially if you aren't together any more.
Sorry to hear you're implicated in all this. I can't agree more with the others who stressed letting him clear out his issues first. You're heartbroken and it's very understandable. Maybe the best thing would be to wait for the paternity test before you get too far into this whole "baby mama drama", as you put it. Should he be the father, then let him be the father. It doesn't sound like you're even together in relationship-wise. Just lovers? I'd recommend finding another lover so if you do have to sever ties with this guy, it won't be too harsh on yourself. I know that sounds crude. But do you want to get dragged down or into something that isn't nearly anywhere close to being resolved??
