When we did anything, it was only with someone that we knew was absolutely Safe to be with. We were both too paranoid about getting something that would possibly kill us. An orgasm wasn't worth getting ill over. That is why we are/were limited to a few individuals. It is another reason that we embraced sex toys so much, not that you need a reason. Are you cautious in your sexual exposure?
I was certainly much more licentious back in the day. Nowadays I get tested regularly, use PrEP and Doxy PrEP, and am a bit more circumspect. However, ejaculate is a huge deal to me; the energy connection at the moment of orgasm, with his hard cock throbbing deep in my mouth, incorporating his essence into my body; literally the physical manifestation of his life force; it satisfies some deep atavistic craving in me like nothing else does. For me, cocksucking borders upon the mystical and spiritual. Put a condom on, and the spell's broken; I literally might as well be sucking on a broomstick. Irresponsible and inappropriate as far as answers go, but honest. Best I can do.
And there's the rub, isn't it? Those of us who suck cock knows that when it's covered with a condom, it loses something but it remains true that if you're worried about catching something, you do what Piobaire and a lot of other guys do - get the medications and know the signs of a guy having the clap, has sores on his cock, stuff like that or... put a condom on it or, worst of all, do not suck cock. Ever. The act does not feel or seem to be complete if he cums in a condom or pulls out and who knows where his cum is going to go - but it's not in my mouth and I'm not sucking it out of a condom or a shot glass because like Piobaire said, it satisfies a deep, atavistic craving and like nothing else can do when he's pumping it directly into my mouth. Playing it safe means that you do whatever you gotta do to 'make sure' that when you have sex with a guy, you'll be safe doing it and, realistically, as safe as humanly possible because as we all know - or should know - that the safest way to have sex is... to not have sex at all.
The choice seems to be either remain strictly celibate, or roll the dice once in a while and mitigate risk as best as you can. I'm not saying they're wrong, but to hear the nurses at the health department tell it, you should never touch anyone without a Level A Hazmat suit.
I'm cautious in that I won't suck off just anyone. I have a great creep radar and have no problems skipping anyone that is off. Further, I am not all that promiscuous. I have done a cruising spot and a glory hole a handful of times, but quit that. Now I have one regular friend and a married guy who stops in on occasion. No anal sex unless it is with someone I know very well. I've only done that with two guys. No condoms ever. For me, the cumshot is a huge deal, and I'd rather go without if I had to use a condom. Other things: I have excellent oral hygiene and I require video chat with a person before I meet. I have no problem passing on people who I think are weirdos or players. Finally, I know myself pretty well and limit myself to situations where I can't get too carried away. There's a fairly well used glory hole in the city. It would be amazing to suck off a dozen guys in an evening, but no. Too risky and I can't say no to a hard cock. I'd be there for hours and would still want more. I'm not missing out on anything. The two guys I hookup with now love cum as much as I do, so lots of pleasure to give and be given. I haven't gotten any std's of any kind yet, and likely won't.
That is one of, if not the main reason that I am having such a difficult time finding someone to swap handjobs and blowjobs with. I know the age of AIDS being rampant among gays and bisexuals is over, but it is still out there along with numerous other STDs. I've been told and that I am being to selective and careful because I don't want to suck someone's cock unless I know where it's been. We men truly are sluts and will let anyone suck our cocks and will put our cocks in just about any hole that feels good. Back in the 70s before the AIDS epidemic I would let anyone suck my cock, but that ended quickly . I caught "crabs" once a very long time ago, but I have been lucky enough to have never caught any type of STD and would love to keep it that way!!!
