Physical Strength

So guys, i am a skinny guy and im sick of it, i use to be a weight lifter when i was 13... serious and now i've lost almost all that i gained those 5-6 years ago.

Anyway i realised not being able to defend myself and those i care about has been fucking with my self esteem more then i realised and so im going to start working out.

Now my question is this, how many of you guys think it is important in todays society to be physicaly strong or able to defend yourselves well?

On a side not, ladies how important are these traits in your man?

 

hmmm, here's my weird angle
I like it when guys can defend themselves, wont' get beaten up etc.

but I don't like it when guys hurt other people, and never when unprovoked.

I'd honestly prefer a guy ran, rather than fight and win or fight and get beaten up

 

i think it is important to be able to defend yourself and your loved ones.

We dont always get to choose what situations we're put into and being prepared is always best

as teddy said: speak softly and carry a big stick.

 

thin men are very sexy. Makes their penis look bigger too.

 

there's your answer.

 

Build your house on a strong foundation. If you find that the foundation has weakness then be honest and clear-minded in these considerations. And remember that the goal is really that of good.




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i dont really know if strength is all that important in a fight...hitting power is and being able to take a punch and not topple over, ive found that crazy beats strong in a lot of fights

 

Well at the moment i can take a punch with out toppling over but i cant throw one very well.

 

Freak out your opponent! That's the best way to win. Adam got headbutted by this guy in the army and busted his face really bad. So with blood running down his face, he got up in the other dude's face and blew him a kiss. That scared the living piss out of that guy and he never would face him again.

I think you'll be cool. If you want to, get a punching bag or spar with a friend if you want to get better at hitting.

Peace and love

 

Thin men are very sexy..

But there's nothing wrong with weight lifting. It may be a stereotypical "guy thing", but who cares? It's not like you'll turn into a meat head.

 

Thin men are sexy in my books. They're also usually the quick ones in a fight. I'd take speed over power anyday.

 

I'm a girl. And to be honest with you, these traits are NOT important to me.
In fact, I tell my guy NOT to work out because muscle don't attract me ( quite the opposite actually ), I tell him to do cardiovascular and diets in order to LOSE weight instead.

And like a previous female poster said: I'd rather have him run from a fight than fight.

but that's just me. ^^ ( I'm the exact opposite. So I guess that'll explain it...)

If you want to gain muscle, go ahead, do it. If you don't, hey, that's fine too!

 

Physical strength isn't important. In fact, big bulky guys are a turn-off to me. I have always had a thing for geeky men, anyways...

 

Totally.

 

now women who lift weights are sexyyyyyyyyyyy. And no, i dont mean female body builders...

 

Sorry if this sounds a bit harsh....but the issue with your skinniness lies with you. I am skinny. I got over it. I honestly couldn't give a fuck about "what a man should and shouldn't be"

Really, I don't think you should be concerned about defending yourself. Avoiding fights is 90% of the battle....and that has to do with having a tough, assertive but peaceful attitude. Becoming strong isn't going to help you fight off a group of thugs. It will only help you win a fight for honour. Its a Joke really.

Anyway, i'm 6'6" and I've won a lot of fights out of intimidating people into leaving. For example, a man beating up his wife in the park, I only have to walk up looking angry and he'll bolt. So, maybe i can't talk. How tall are you? How confident are you?

If you are really concerned, i think martial arts will teach you to fight smarter and more pacifistic. Bulking up is more about being a big tough oaf.

Most of all, be proud of your skinniness.

 

why is bulking up about being an oaf?

there is such negative stereotypes about weightlifting

 

Yeah, sorry. I didn't mean it that way. I think its useless as far as self defence is concerned...having large muscles is hardly a pre-cursor for quick thinking, quick movements and flexibility. Of course a combination of bulking up and martial arts in moderation would probably work.

 

Doesn't really matter how quick i am, if i cant knock some one down, besides im not looking to be the greatest fighter in the world i dont care if i have to take a few, i know i can quite well.

 

Ok you're a skinny guy but your also a tall guy, i am not, im about 5"9 or maybe 5"10 at the most so i dont have that height advantage.

This isnt about being what a man is meant to be, this is about being more confident in myself. being strong wont help you fight a group of thugs? bullshit... i know thats not true, i've seen it and heard about it plenty of times.

So all this really comes down to is that i want to be able to be out and about and not have to worry about having a target on me. I dont want to fight people and yeah i will avoid fights.