People Who Complain About Being Broke And..

...then go out to the bars or clubs, etc. are annoying. It is like, my ex was bitching about how I ate the last of the eggs and how she does not have much money and needed me to save her half of the eggs so she could eat (since everything is now split) and how her pay has been cut in half at work...But then goes out to the bars and clubs till after midnight multiple times per week. She has money for that though. (interesting priorities). People are so dumb sometimes...I didn't even realize I had already eaten half the crate of 30...

But yah, if my pay is cut in half I am not going out even once, never mind many times per week...But I am approaching that hypothetical situation with logic.

Oh yah, we still have to live together in case you were wondering since the lease does not terminate for 2 months, one of those kind of situations. Ugh.

 

yup. also people who complain about being broke and unable to find work, but refuse to apply for any jobs.

 

In your situation I can see how that can be unfair, living with your ex and them using their money to go out in replacement for food. But, I'm not going to lie when I read this thread it made me think of something else, people who complain about people's spending habits.

I have been in a few situations where someone is struggling with money and seeks government assistance, only to be denied and scolded for their living habits. For example, once I went to this place that was suppose to help people with their bills. I went there to be the interpreter for someone else. Not only were they denied, which is one thing. But, they were scolded for having Internet, eating out a few times a week (They just bought refried beans, basically... when they needed something quick before work), etc. Badically, they were scolding them for spending money on things that most people spend money on. I was thinking to myself, "So, if they stop all of this they will pay off their $10,000 medical bills?"

Sure, saving money is always a plus. In a situation between going out and buying eggs... it's definitely is a plus, because that's roughly the same amount of money.. But, in some other cases, come on, now... really?

 

people who use the food bank generally have at least 5 pets at home

just sayin'

 

damn... you eat a lot of eggs bro

 

There's another angle to this that men don't see as much as women. Going out to bars may not be costing her much at all. If she's worth looking at, she knows all too well how to get guys to buy her drinks. As for food and "roommates", I have learned that having only raw things that have to be prepared in multiple steps or taking a half hour or more, brings that situation under control fast. If you must have convenience foods, keep them in your glove box or get a locking tool box.

Yes, you aren't responsible for her financial condition if the two of you aren't trying to build a relationship. If you are, then splitting the money is childish as is spending on anything that doesn't benefit the relationship. The thing is though, if it's a roommate trying to slide by at your expense simply because you do have more of your shit together, the relationship will grow toxic daily. But the club thing is not a reliable measure. The only measure is simple, these are the bills, where's your half? Full Stop.

 

this is actually a fairly common phenomenon and one reason why liquor stores never go out of business during an economic downturn. If someone is broke and miserable they're more likely to spend money on being less miserable rather than saving what few bucks they do have.

 

Maybe you depress the shit out of her to the point of wanting to drink.

 

Yeah, I agree with you. When I am low on funds, the first thing I do is stop going out to eat and for drinks. Although, when I start to go stir crazy, I will sometimes go out and order one strong drink and nurse it for an hour or two.....

 

There a line between the two...I mean some people do need to learn how to budget their money, I lived with my sister-in-law for a while and our paychecks were going towards gas and groceries and that was all we could get...but 3/6 people we were buying for needed their special brands because they tasted better (Coca-Cola brand instead of Kroger Coke, Kalamatta Olives instead of Black, etc). Not because of allergies or anything just based on taste. And the vehicle we were driving was their huge van that cost 80 bucks once a week to fill the tank since we live out an hour out of town and my Subaru wasn't working.. So we were constantly broke. My sister-in-law, who made 3x more than we did, would promise things to her kids and mine, and then spend the money on herself...for my daughter, Ravin's birthday last year we couldn't afford her a present because of the groceries and that, and she promised her a trip to the movies. But, when my Ravin's birthday came around She was broke because she spent it on herself instead...and we were understanding thinking it could have been a bad month for bills or something so we waited a full month and she still didn't follow through...but she would come home with new piercings, 24oz super expensive lattes, tons and tons of cigarettes for her and her fiancé, new ammo for her fiancé's new guns... (Chris and I don't smoke tobacco)...I understand that she was paying most of everything else, but if you promise my daughter you're going to do something...sacrifice some so she doesn't grow up thinking you don't care about her...My daughter was in tears for a long time because she thinks her Aunt cares more about fancy coffees and cigarettes than her niece.

However, I also agree with abarambling about barely making it. There's a balance and a thing called compassion. My husband and I are barely making it right now but when I tell my kids that we're trying to save up for a trip to the pool, I don't spend all that money on other stuff. It's hard and stressful and sometimes you snap under the pressure and get a treat for yourself or eat out cheaply because it's the only option, but there's a difference between trying and just being selfish...Anyways this is getting long and I hope it doesn't come across as being brash or anything. Sometimes I don't do very well using the correct words for what I'm trying to convey.

 

Well, I don't complain about her financial situation or even mention it....Just here. But next time she complains about being broke, yah, I think i will bring up how interesting I find her priorities.

Maybe I depress her, who knows, or maybe the breakup makes her sad...but I figure she is over it and probably going out to show me she is over it..

The crate of 30 eggs probably lasted us nearly a month when we were together. I had downed 18 in the previous month (that total includes the 3 she is complaining about). I had eaten the last three that were there. That was towards the end of last month and I ate them not really realizing I had had my 15 already. But to me, eggs are so petty which is why I am upset she was like almost in tears about being hungry and having so little money to eat but then turns around and goes to bars and clubs a lot..

 

the first step in understanding the thought process of a woman is to accept that you never will.

 

i can understand not applying for work if you have some kind of mental social problem. but if you're asking people for money, your problem obviously isn't that.
basically i understand being broke from not wanting to ask anyone for anything, i've eaten in soup-lines and slept in shelters because of that.
but i really don't understand people asking strangers for money. i mean, if someone isn't bothered to do that, i just don't see how that's supposed to be any easier then applying for work or selling something.
i know people are going to say lazy and doing nothing, but those phrazes are just words people throw around, that don't really mean anything that makes sense.
(two things i've never done when broke and/or homeless, is drink alky or ask for money.
and i'm pretty sure i'm not the only one who's been homeless and not done either of those things when i was, either)

also spliff: replace "woman" with "human" and i will agree with you. gender ain't got jack to do with it. or to put it another way, no gender is any exception.

 

I don't know....my wife and I have a certain way that we split money and each of us is responsible for paying certain bills. Whatever is left after those obligations are met is ours to do with as we please. Works great for us. Either of us can buy whatever we want if we have the money with no discussion needed at all but.....we are both responsible with our money so if I see that she has bought something kind of pricey....I know that she has paid the bills first.

 

I understand. This is just how we worked it out. About 25 years ago. Seems to do the job.

 

I wonder if he was still getting his knob poliished by her, would he be complaining about a box of eggs

 

It appears that people who are broke.....

need to fight for their right to party!

 

Beastie Boys

 

Aren't eggs, like, less than $2 per dozen?

 

"it was the eggs," he said as he rolled the steel balls in his hand.