Last year I contacted a lover from my past. We had some great months together 30 years ago. Once we were reacquainted and determined we still had attraction to each other, we decided to hook up. It was a 4 day vacation for both of us in a state between us. For the most part the trip was pretty good. I had hoped for 5 orgasms a day, and he kind of wanted to play house. We had 30 years to catch up on too and our present day unhappiness plagued us as well. Let this be a warning or caution to those of you that think attraction is enough....it isn't. Yet, I don't take my own advice. I just contacted another lover from the same time period. He was glad to hear from me and had thought of me often and pondered "what if" things had been different. It was a nice time on the phone with him. We both have our eldest entering college and they will make a trip to my state in a month to drop his son off. I casually mentioned "I'm not too far away". Even tho I like to catch up on how life went for some people, i do make contact with the hopes of seeing them again. Am I the only one that wishes for that????
No you aren't. I once contacted an old flame, but apart from a breathtaking "hey great to see you again" fuck, the same issues arose. Again. Doesn't mean we don't think about old lovers, though. I've only recently had to ask one not to email me any more because although she can "just be friends", I can't.
Yeah, I guess that why they say "everything is for a season". With the first, we are actually in touch, and using this time to get to know each other. We have phone sex and much affection for each other. There is an inkling we might try a future. We both are in a marriage and have one last child to see through to adulthood so there is time to figure it out. With this 2nd one, I find that having a talk isn't enough for me. I always want to meet up.
I'm in the same predicament, kinda, I was thinking about it at 4am when I found my old flames facebook page. Her default pic was of her husband and two kids, one is a newborn. She looked a little thinner than she did 8-9 years ago. I never sent the message because I felt I may be a burden to her, her family and her life.
When I contacted this guy last friday, he was very glad to hear from me. He was inquisitive and asked questions. Over the years he has thought of me. He game me the names of his kids to look at on FB, and a website that he designed. I've thought a lot about whether I let the next move be his.....
