parties..

hey ok, well im posting something because i have a friend see that wanted me to post something about the parties that go on where i live..sooo

ok i really dont think that the parties here are bad, i think they're quite fun actually lol..but see my friends thinks not..he seems to think i have a drinking problem and that im just going to let it get worse with time..because theres a party here like every night and im usually at one atleast once a week sometimes twice and usually i drink at home like everyday but not getting drunk at home just a couple coolers or something..but anyways about the parties, ok well alot of people usually go and the older people usually take over the party and for those who pussy drink, get funnelled basically..which believe me is a rush lol and is fun..but apparently its just oh so wrong lol..no body gets hurt or anything and no one has and no one will..i've had it done like 3 times i think and its no big deal, after the first two time you usually get the point but sometimes it takes an extra time like it did with me haha..alot of the younger people that show up at the parties like the grade 9's and people like that dont realize that they gotta actually drink when they go, like they cant just have a few drinks the whole night and think nothing is gonna happen to you! lol like if your not getting plastered then theres no point in going, unless your driving then thats different..but other than that if your not drinking the grade 11's and 12's will come find you and hold you down and put a funnell in your mouth until you've drank a 46'er of straight vodka yourself..thats basically an over view of every party we have here..you cant really escape it unless its like a quiet party with just a couple people kind of thing.

ok well thats it really..just gimme your thoughts on the parties here cause apparently im going to eventually die at one of them hahah ya right lol

 

i'm her freind who requested she post.. little more background.. both her parents are alcaholics & have let her drink from age 6..heavily since 12
shes 15 now & has days where shes drank till she blacks out & doesnt remember the entire day..& she still thinks its all in fun
i beleive forcing a minor to drink thsat heavily is extremely irresponcible i think theres no duch thing as pussy drinking & anyone who does this should be tossed in jail
what do u guys think? & 1 other question i want answered
is it possible for an alcaholic to go through recovery & then drink occasionaly?
say its nevr possible..but prove me wrong

 

to all the young folks here..are these type fulnneling parties common where your from? i've been to her town..& its prety fucked up

 

22...Wow~ *Shakes Her Head* First, That Kynd Of Drinking Is WAY DANGEROUS...Especially Funneling. It Disrupts The Oxygen Flow, While Allowing Large Amounts Of Alcohol Into Your Body, Which Is What Gets So Many Folks In Trouble, I.E. Black~outs And Such...This Can Kill You, Love...SO MANY Different Things Can Happen To Folks After They've Funneled And Blacked Out...One Of My Sisters Almost Died This Way...She Blacked Out, Was Attacked From Behind And Robbed According To Some Other Folk At The Gathering....They'd Been Doing Keg~Stands, Which Isn't Shyte Compared To Funneling A Half Mac Of Vodka..Another Thing...And I'll Be Honest With You...I Work In A Biker Bar, Pouring Whiskey...Some Tough Kind Come My Way...And No One In This Place Is Talking About Pussy Drink'n...Most Have A Few, And Go On Their Way, Because They VALUE Lyfe, And Want To Keep On Keepin On, Not Look Like They Can Out~Do Everyone And Die Trying, You Know? Complete Bull Shit, Love...Some Advice, Young One...Live Your Life To The Fullest : )You're In Good Knowing Folk Like Eagle~So Take Advantage And Don't Sell Yourself Short By Miss'n Out Because You're Fried From The Fifth You Drank At Dawn..And Eagle: Can An Alchoholic Recover, Then Drink A Bit? It All Depends...But Most Of The Thyme...Not Really~Not In My Experience, Anyways...A Few In My Family Have Issues With This...I Also See A Lot Of AA Chips At The Bar...It's Bad Karma, A Vicious Circle For Most, But Again, Not All........

 

I think it is malicious and cruel to force someone to drink when they dont want to, infact i am pretty sure it is illegal but that is beside the point. I have been to parties and gotten wasted, been sick and had a good time but thats ok because i chose to drink. Sometimes I just want to chill and have a beer sometimes i dont want to get drunk does that mean I should be codemned?

If anyone did that to me they'd probably get wasted... and I dont mean drunk. Mis-ugly if you keep this up you are bound to be violated and eventually it will kill you.

These year 11 and 12's that do this i am sure are all guys and I am sure they are all assholes, behaviour like that fueled by alcohol I am sure is going to get someone hurt (I am pretty sure it already has)

Don't get me wrong Mis-ugly i have been to parties with plenty of drugs that have been pretty wild but no one was out to hurt each other like at you parties... I hope I never ever attend such a party.

 

For me, personally, it's not possible, i've been down the boozy road and i sure as fuck ain't walking it again......I ain't touched a drop for over 18months (I quit on 22 december 2003...yup...just before xmas).

I'm an alcoholic....i used to be an alcoholic who was also a drunk/boozer/pisshead .... wotever lil' colloquialism you use for someone who actively uses alcohol as part of their life...

I ain't got no sob story, no horrible childhood, no horrible trauma to trigger the need for alcohol....all i know is that i used it because i liked being drunk.

At 13 I started drinking....just a few beers on a friday night, normal teen stuff
At 15 I was pretty much using alcohol as yer friend above, partying hard and when not partying it was "just a few" to help wind down/relax.
By 21 alcohol is a big part of life...meeting friends? - do it in a pub/club...visiting friends - offer a drink, have one yourself, hell, have half a dozen.....hard day at work? fell out with the gf/bf? - I'll sleep better with a few drinks in me etc etc
By 25 I was using alcohol more to influence my mood...as opposed to something to provide a buzz and make a party more fun
By 27 I was fucked, drinking the next day to wash away the hangover of the night before........and that is absolutely no quality of life...not to mention the mental/physical detriments that lifestyle brings..

I'm tea-total, but i have nothing against the use of alcohol, if used responsibly it is great fun....but for the luvva god respect the stuff...alcohol fucked me up more than any drug...and I think I've taken practically all of them at one time or another....and anyone who has ever been to an AA meeting can tell yer a 101 horror stories.....

Hope yer friend enjoys her partying, and learns to enjoy/respect drink before it gets it's claws into her...she'll prolly will have/be witness to a few accidental od's on alcohol at those machismo-filled parties, you can't drink like that and get away with it for long....mebbe those who od will survive (seen more than one person dead from booze, good friends as well)

Alcohol really can be a bitch

 

I think you entirely missed the point but i am tired so i am not sure.


*this is not a personal attack.

 

firstly i have neverheard of funnel parties but no it is not possible for an alchoholic to go through recovery and then drink occassionally.......i have first hand experience with my dads sister who is now dead from drinking and smoking too much ......she lost both legs one arm and an eye due to clots etc . drinking from 6 i find this unbelievable that a mother could put her kid through this kinda life.but having said that we have an alchoholic single mother across the road from us she has 2 kids who are now18 and 13 i have known her for 12 years and her kids have had an awful life ........for entertainment she would take them to the pub with her now the 13 yr old girl drinks herself......while my kids are all smiley her kids just look ill ive tried to help them at times like giving them a hot meal ......... i urge you too think about what your drinking

 

yes he did..& to clarify
a funneling party is..if a child..only 15..isn't drinking fast enough..pounding them down to get totaly drunk
they pin them down, force a funnel into theyre mouth & force them to guzzle a large amount of alcahol very quickly ..
in my book this is assult with a deadly weapon, assault, attempted manslaughter, reccklessly endangering a minor & several other charges.
i asked her what would happen if anyone died she said noone would be stupid enough to ever say anything, & it would "slow down" awhile but would continue
lil miss..listen up..realize its not just me..your endangering your life in the nwame of fun..how fun will it be when u find out 12 drunk idiots repatedly raped your limop unconcoiuse body & spread vidiotapes around the school?
anything at all can happen to you when your so fucked up you dont even remember the entire day
wake up & smell reality..it stinks

 

I'm not sure what I can add to this,that hasn't already been said. Just other than the fact that some of us have been there and can speak from experience. You will regret doing this,eventually. It may seem fun and cool,but it's not. Having to get boozed up is not cool. Abusing the alcohol is not cool. And not having your own free will and not making your own decisions about your own body is not cool. When you get drunk,you can become helpless,and things can happen. That's horrible. It's more than horrible. What's even worse though,is that you would allow someone to control you while you are sober enough to make your own choices. You can say no,you can leave,or even better,don't go to these parties in the first place.

 

People holding u down and force feeding u straight vodka is fucked up! u need to stop drinking like this unless u wanna end up with liver cirrhosis ...plus i personally dont see the fun in being paralytically drunk its just plain dangerous.

 

a pictures worth a thousand words..just look what your doing to your body..and your just 15.. by 25 you coukd have such severe damage your only options may be aliver transplant or death.. & finding a suitable doner is pretty hard to do..
you just dont reallize how serius this is.. sure getting drunk can seem fun..but look at the consequences..maybe not for tomorow..but look ahead 10 years..
with your family history of alcaholism your almost guaranteed to be one if you don't change your habbits now

 

yes i agree alchoholism does run in families and thats speaking from families ive seen near me.........your parents must be in a pretty bad way sweetheart and although you proberly love them i doubt thats the way you wanna end up .....your 15 there is so much more out there for you ........your young life is only just beginning why waste it ......and believe me vodka is one of the worst spirits .....its like drinking furniture polish..........my mum died with cancer and i can remember the ward she was on it was mixed and this guy was dying with drink related illness and he couldent walk.his legs were purple like two big bruises .his penis and testicles were purple and he couldent wee with out a bag on .....the nurses used to joke that his willy would drop off but it really wasent funny.....he was about60 and looked about 85.....your15..get some help sweetie from someone out side your family.you might think its fun now but that wont last.

 

Well yes no young person should be forced / allowed to drink like that until they are 21. Its not healthy and I dont think ANYONE would advise it. :$ Although I say this and others are telling you not to, I dont think you would listen lol. But it is your life at stake , and you should try to go to rehab hun. For your sake and others around you. It would be better to stop while ahead . I will stop preaching and let u go. And for Souring Eagle, some people do go and drink a lil while just gettin out of rehab, BUT its not ADVISABLE!!!! Peace and LoVe to EVERYONE ~

 

yes..they do..& its not advisable because its called relapse..they fall right back into the same old habbits

 

ok, first off, forcing a person, especailly a person as young as 14 or 15 to drink, is not only irresposible, but it's wrong and cruel. You are at a very critical stage of development at that age, and drinking can serriously disrupt it, and harm you for life. The thought of people doing this is making me physically ill, if I ever heard that someone was doing that to my child, or even a child in my town, I would be on them like brown on rice faster than you can say traction.

Second, you say no one is getting hurt? Think of the damage you're doing to your body by doing all that drinking! Your brain, your liver, your heart, your stomach. You will be in a bad bad state by 20 if you continue this way. And also, do you really want to be on dyalasis by the age of 30? Cause that's where this is heading.

Please, for your own health, I know it seems fun, but how fun is it gonna be when you get too drunk to know what's going on and get taken advantage of? Because if that hasn't happened yet, it will, to you, or a friend, but it will happen. This path leads only very bad places, I have so many friends from school that did the same thing, it's nothing if not dangerous and unhealthy.

And also, there is no such thing as a recovered alcoholic that still drinks occaisionally. Alcoholism is all or nothing, it's the nature of the beast. And I would bet money that if the person drinks "occaisionally" in public, that they drink to the point of getting drunk on every one of those occaisons, if not more privatly.

Please, please, seek help, cousiling, AA, ALANON, whatever you need, but you will feel so much better once you do.

 

That's NOT good man. I would do my best to knock the absolute shit out of anyone who shoved a funnel in my mouth.

 

I am not sure if my post before was clear enough i was fairly outraged.

I am not even against teens drinking and i know that sounds wrong but i started smoking when i was 14 and started drinking when i was 15. usually half a bottle of vodka at parties and i would get pretty trashed, now i wouldnt recommend this behaviour and i wouldnt buy alcohol for a minor but who i am to judge?

My only real problem with this is people being FORCED to drink, in a way it is very similar to RAPE and in any case just plain wrong.

I have been at parties where 14 year olds have gotten smashed and have thrown up and we all had a bit of a giggle but at the end of the day they chose to drink and us older people would look after them not let them stager around untill they passed out.

Also i bet your year 11 and 12 friends seem so cool they drink so much personally i think it is immature, i know it is something i have grown out of, now days i'd just rather a 6 pack and a few cones. would that mean i would get forced to endure funelling?

 

i never told you this but i drank alot when i was young..but not that young..maybe 19-23 & i remember 1 time drinking etyl after eatting nutmeg.. we were ok..well very drunk that day.. but the next 2 days we'd randomly go blind..or pass out.. 1 guy passed out walking down the stairs & fell over the rail head first 3 story dive.. fractudring his skull & breakking his neck.. hes extremely lucky to still be alive let alone walking alcahol leads you to do crazy things i knew 1 girl who'd wake up naked in the snow nesarly frozen to death verytime she drank.. the point is..everytime u overdo it u never know what might happen,.. because you just arent in control

 

hmm, i've never once experienced one of these "funneling parties". and i've been to plenty of parties. if i ever saw some people pinning down someone and forcing a funnel into their mouths, i swear some people are going to the hospital - and it won't be the one who is being forced to funnel. thats just wrong, to forcibly make someone chug large amounts of alcohol, err, large amounts of vodka is just wrong and wicked dangerous.

i've done a funnel before, at tops it was 3 cans of beer. but i did it on my own will - i wasn't forced and if someone would ever try to force me to, it won't be pretty. i've also done kegstands, also my decision to do one.

i've been down the road of drinking way too much in a night - i ended up passing out in a parking lot up in canada one night. no one realized i was outside for about an hour. i have no clue how i got out there and why i was out there. all i know is that i was passed out on my back after throwing up. a friend finally came out and got me up, but something could have happened.

i've also been down the road were i just drank a few beers at a party. not a lot, just 2 or 3 beers. something to loosen my inhibitions. and i rarely laugh or point at people who seem like "pussy drinkers." the only person i will ever call out is the person who says they're getting shitfaced and they have had more than 8 drinks while in reality they have only had 1 drink the whole night. thats just because i hate liars.

i know younger teens are going to party, but that doesn't mean you have to over do it everytime you party. it gets really old, really fast. and its a huge money waster. i'm ashamed of the amount of money i spend on going out drinking my sophomore year at college. but if your going to party, don't allow yourself to get so out of control that someone else can have easy pickings on you. and dont' allow other people to force alcohol down your throat. take care of yourself. stick with your friends, dont' wander off by yourself...just be careful.