I have a HUGE amount of parental trust, both from and towards my parents. I'm 19 and my parents know every drug I've done (e, mush, weed, salvia, and know I've smoekd a fair amount this summer, enough to be high almost every day) and yeah, they don't like to hear that I've done it, but I tend to tell them about it just cause. And I know my dad smoked his fair share of pot all his life, till I was like 6, and i know he did acid when he was in grade 10, all that shit. Same with my mom, I also know my mom has done acid, and she did MDA, which is a really chill drug that a couple of my friends have done too, different from MDMA (MDMA is what ecstacy is supposed to be). Either way, I feel this is how all parents should be, maybe not tell all the drugs you're doing to your parents like I have, but you should be able to tell them you've done it if they ask, it shouldn't ever be a negative thing that your kid has done a drug unless it is something supremely bad like meth or crack, or something that could easily lead to a hardcore addiction like heroin. A parent should be able to ask if you smoke weed just as easily and with the same response as asking them if they watch Family Guy, or if they watch hockey, it's no big deal. My mom smokes like once every 5 years, my dad probably 2 or more times a year. I've smoked with my dad twice and my mom once, she greened ten minutes after 2 hoots off my double bubbler, my dad and I (both smoked) and thought it was the funniest fucking thing ever. Bonding moment for sure, seriously.
you are not alone, but the problem is that most parents just expect respect, they never make the effort. i love my parents, i trust them with everything.
I wish... All I do is toke about once a week and drink about once a month. If my parent's ever found out I would be fucked harder than a child molester in a prison shower. Both my brothers got in trouble with the police and my parent's have said that they took all my second chances and that I have to be the good one. They freak out if I so much as use the word marijuana in conversation. The worst part is that they have admitted to my brother that they used to smoke in college.
My mum and me have always been pretty friendly as well. It definitely is how all parent-spawn relationships should be.
Well, you said it for the most part. It all boils down to trust and responsibility. All you can hope for with your children is that they don't grow up to be a drain or menace to society. That they will be productive and good people in general. If that is the case you have done pretty well for yourself and your children.
It's a similar situation for myself; both of my parents know everything I've consumed and it's a long list. I've been lectured to no end when I was younger but they realized (my mom mostly) that they loved the current me just as I was and that the current me consisted, but was not limited to, substance experimentation. These days it's all good, bar become a junking/tweaker or strung out and they understand the differences between enjoyment and over indulging. I guess for me to think about being a parent at this stage of my life, which is almost certain to change; would be as long as my kid understood that I'm not paying for their drugs, grades are priority, and I'm not bailing you out...then have fun and be safe please!
too bad more parents can't be honest with their kids. I had this discussion the other night...... well my son is smoking weed..so be honest with him about what you did when you were his age.......Why?.. he doesn't need to know that
^ The only thing I can see that they have to gain would be him considering his parents to a standard that is neither true nor something he should be held to himself. I definitely don't get parents who crack down on weed even though they know from experience how harmless it is, and that extends to parents who pretend like they never did it themselves. My parents have always been pretty chill about my drug use (which started pretty late, senior year). That's probably a bit of an understatement, actually. When my dad found out I was interested in trying acid he immediately (and enthusiastically) gave me "The Psychedelic Experience" by Leary, Alpert, and Metzner along with a whole stack of other books about LSD and it's hallucinogenic buddies. Anyone in a position like that with their parents should keep in mind how lucky they are.
Oh and by the way, if I ever started smoking cigs or cigars my parents would FLIP! They both used to smoke cigs but managed to quit when I was like 6 or something, sometime when I was young. But they'd be appalled to learn if I had picked up smoking. My dad always shakes his head whenever he sees a decent-looking woman smoking. Always claims that over a decade or two of smoking she'll look like shit. I agree. Most people, men or women, that I've seen that have been smoking for like 20+ years usually look like shit or look a lot older than they are. That shit is SO bad for you.
WOWOWOWOW. no. just no. my mom thinks if you smoke a joint, you'll become instantly addicted to marijuana. she's one of the reasons i stopped smoking; having to face her was giving me anxiety. and then feeling guilty for all that she's done for me and then going to do drugs behind her back. so yes.. that was that and i don't do it anymore. meh =/
scarlett tunic, your train of thought is hard to follow. seems like if your mom knew her shit (like marijuana is not physically addictive) or had an open mind, then you would be able to talk to her about it. which is the point. if parents were all open minded and accepting, if all children could trust their parents with everything, then parent/ spawn relationships would be better all around. but many parents are closeminded, stupid, and 'expect' respect for nothing, which is wrong IMO, and that hurts the kids, like you, who apparently have anxiety problems when being around your mom, who should not make you stress, but should be your confidant.
no.. i don't have anxiety problems around my mom. only when i was high did i become paranoid around her. but my mom is great and i love her. she doesn't mind me drinking or going out. she's just not informed about marijuana. but who can blame her? my family is eastern european lol.
well that does make a bit more sense then. too bad drinking is worse for you than pot, and more accepted.
no indeed, but hard drugs are more likely to cause long term problems, and are more offensive to "protect the children!" type people. my parents told me not to trust chemicals, because they are too easy to tamper with. but i trust my parents, so i havent done anything harder than shrooms. i dont think anyones bashing occasional hard drug users, but from a parental perspective they are in a very different category, and preferably taboo. my son is 3, but when hes older i would be devastated to learn he was doing hard drugs. i think its too easy to get addicted to them, but its personal choice in the end. hard drugs just break a parents heart, unless the parent is on them too, which ive seen. great way to screw a kids future, giving them crack at 14
i wouldn't say it's exactly worse for you.. and as for social events, i'd rather drink because it makes me more social. if i smoke when i go out, i will usually only take 1 or 2 hits and follow that up with alcohol.. i just get too withdrawn sometimes when i smoke.
My mom was not tolerant at all when she first found out, but over time she's become semi-ok with it. Probably it was because after knowing that I smoked for years, shes never seen me do the things "drug addicts" do like stealing money and shit like that.
i got lucky as well, my parents care more about me telling them the truth about shit then hiding it, so they know i smoke, and when i told them they said i could smoke in the house anytime. when i get drunk i would let them know and stay somewhere instead of driving home drunk cuz my parents cant find out. its pretty cool having parents that care in the right way of keeping me out of trouble even though i'm breaking the law...i havent told them about tripping acid or mushies though, but they havent asked either, i dont think they'd really care either. too bad everyones parents are like this...and all the luck to kids with strict ass parents
