Painfully inexperienced... what should I do?

My new bf wants to have sex. I've had a somewhat traumatic sex life, never been raped, but mostly all my sex experiences have been one-sided situations where all I really did was lie there. I'm also painfully self-conscious and have a very low sex drive. I have no idea how to please a guy or what to do... but I don't want to keep having to make excuses. He's 18 and attractive and I don't want to lose him. Any advice will help.

 

How long have you been together? Do you even want to have sex?

 

a few weeks, I do, I mean I'm really attracted to him, I just don't know what to do, lol

 

I say wait a bit, if he's a good guy he wont mind waiting. You shouldn't just have sex the first time because he's hot, you should be in love.

 

You don't have to be in love to make love!

Although,

I am in love when I am making love :]

 

I have to say I agree, it seems like it is a little early to start having sex. Maybe before you have sex, you could explore eachothers bodies... Have him should you what he like and then give it a try. Also, you should have to worry about sex that early on in a relationship. I hope he isn't pushing you into sex. If he has a higher sex drive then you, this could be umm not so great later on in a relationship. Talk about sex with him first. The basics, like what happens if you get pregnant. That is a very important thing to discuss with you partner before having sex.


Tiffany

 

BE careful. VERY careful.

 

face down ass up?

 

LOL yep


Tiffany

 

Don't get me wrong I'm not saying that you have to be in love to have sex, I just think that your first time should be magical. I think I feel that way because my first time sucked.

 

It's a miracle I even have a boyfriend in the first place so whether it sounds bad or not I'll do anything to keep him around.

 

What makes you say that?

 

Having sex with him shouldn't be the only incentive for him to stay around. This isn't a good enough reason to have sex with him. I think you need to show him you love him. Please don't just have sex for that reason, your just gonna get hurt in the end. My friend did this alot and it always turned out bad. Show him you care about him, ask about how he is, tell him you miss him and mean it. This is what I would do personally not that sex isn't a great thing in a relationship. Just be patient and take it slow.


Tiffany