This may go better in the sex forum but I thought it could work in the womens forum... since well Im a woman. I lost my virginity to my S/O, in February it was painful... but the pain has not gone away, I kept thinking it would just take a while and intercourse would stop being painful. Its kind of like shooting pain and much worse when I am about to climax or he is about to climax. Sometimes the pain is worse than others. Is this normal? Is sex always painful? I plan on seeing my Gynecologist soon But my insurance doesnt start until November. I was just curios if this was normal for most women or if something could be wrong. Thank you!
No, pain is not normal. My first thought is that you might need more lubrication. That would be an easy fix -- just go buy a bottle of lube and use it as needed. My second thought is that he might be too large for you... Since you don't specify exactly where the pain is, it could be that he's hitting your cervix, which is at best painful. I am not feeling particularly articulate this morning, so can't really describe how to tell if that's the sensation or if it's something else... You could ask your bf if he feels like he's "hitting bottom" during intercourse... Anyway, the simple solution to that problem would be to try some other positions that would not allow him to penetrate quite so deep. If it's neither of those options, I don't know what it could be -- definitely see your doctor. And, even if you find that adding lube fixes the problem, still go see your gyno, as it's better safe than sorry. Also, I'm assuming you have since you have someone you refer to as "my gynecologist", but if you haven't already you should start having yearly exams now that you are sexually active (so if you haven't yet, you could kill two birds with one stone as soon as your insurance kicks in!).
it could be many things. like, him being too big, you not relaxing, std, cervical cancer,...just go see a doctor. it's prolly that he's too big for you since he was your first.
It sounds like he's probably hitting your cervix. If it's like that EVERY time, even when you're going slow and careful, you might have a low cervix. I do, and rough sex with very "well-equipped" guys can leave me curled up for anywhere from 12-48 hours feeling like there's a knife jammed into my lower regions (same as period cramps, only much sharper pain and it's CONSTANT and hurts way more to move, etc). Aside from that, it could be another problem and there's always the obvious, of course - see a gynocologist or ask a doctor. Just try not to stress/worry too much about it until you can find out what's wrong, for sure.
that is so not right! That kind of pain is your body's way of telling you something is very wrong. It doesn't matter if you were screwing Dillinger, it shouldn't hurt that much, ever. But it honestly sounds to me that the OP might just be sensitive to the spermicide or lubrication in the condoms her partner is using. Either that, or a yeast infection, something like that. It could be something as serious as cancer or something as easily remedied as tension causing it, though. Definitely talk to your doctor about it, sooner rather than later.
The vagina can stretch to accomodate a large baby's head. A "large" penis, if you are properly lubricated and aroused should not cause pain. Please see a good doctor, an OBGYN would be a good idea, as I have found many Internists guess when it comes to sexual problems.
You might have a tear there - and maybe everytime you are trying to have sex you are tearing a little more. Have you both been checked for infections?
But, that involves the cervix opening to let the baby's head pass through... I have known one woman who actually had to go to the hospital, as her partner did some serious damage by banging too hard against her cervix. Perhaps she was not sufficiently lubricated, I didn't think at that time to ask... But, from personal experience while quite well lubricated, banging against the cervix is not pleasant. I was able to deal with that by avoiding certain positions, but I wouldn't let a man with more than 8" near me (hear that all y'all men bragging about your 10"?)!
Hmmm. Well we are always well lubed... because I get very wet and we even use store bough lubrication to see if that was the problem. I jsut got tested for stds recently so its not that.... I guess Im just going to go the doctor like i was planning on. Maggie sugar- My gyno is a nurse practitionar(sp?) Is that good or should I possibly see someone else? Thank you everyone for your advice and input... Ill be going in soon.
I didn't know why sex hurt for THREE years, then I found out that I have vestibulitis, which is a form of vulvodynia. If vaginal stimulation is painful during masturbation (with fingers or a vibrator), if large tampons hurt, if riding a bike is uncomfortable, stuff like that, then you may want to look into it. It is a very misunderstood and misdiagnosed problem. One thing that's helped me a lot is a topical lidocaine ointment. It helps take the sting off.
Nurse Pracs are usually great! (as long as she can prescribe meds, and order tests, if you need these.)Go see her. It could be a number of things, and only someone who can examine you, and is trained in gynecology (like a doctor, a midwife or a Nurse Prac) will be able to help. Don't let anyone tell you "You just have to live with it." There IS a reason for it, and keep looking, if your first HCP can't help.
It also may be that he is pressing on an ovarian cyst when he goes deep. I also had a case of appendicitis years ago and scar tissue grew over the ovary. Every month when the hormone levels peak, I have pain during sex. Once I burst into tears. So I would get checked out. It could be an ovary issue.
