Overweight Boyfriend

Hey everyone
So I need some help.
I am a 23 year old girl living with my partner for 2 years, he is 35.

He is very overweight, I mean his stomach hangs out and he doesnt care, he's abut 110 kilos. He always says he hates his body but he drinks most nights, and eat take away.

Now I was an idiot when I met him but now I realise I cannot change him, as i thought I could. He is off right now getting a fatty cheese pizza. He doesnt work out even though he says he wants to. He has vowed for 2 years he will be healthy and get in shape. But I fear he will just be a fat lazy blob like his mother. He suffers from mental illness but c mon is that all to blame? I am not attracted to him physically even his face has gotten fatter. He wont even brush his teeth before he leaves. Now I dont want to sound like a princess but I am very healthy, attractive and slim. People think wtf when they see us. and its embarrasing. He isnt the greatest guy and I wouldnt call him the love of my life.
What angerd me most is that he said If i cooked better food he wouldnt eat out so much? i said why dont you learnt to cook, then he replied you are the cook i hate cooking. I feel that if i dont constantly hold his health up he will revert to eating shit.

Just say he was the greatest guy ever, and i was madly in love and married, maybe I wouldnt care about this so much but I look to the futre that I will be with him forveer and one day making sure he take all his 20 pills and me pushing his fat ass in a wheelchair. Am I over reacting? or not?

I want a healthy partner that we can do out and do stuff with and that I can want to look at naked. He tells me all couples have trouble and that we are very good. But i dont understand how he doesnt want to even look nice for me? maybe I need some perspective please.

 

Recipe for all foods you prepare should include two Lipozene weight loss tablets for you're horizontally challenged beau


Hotwater

 

Well, why did you hook up with a 33 yr old when you were 21?

Id be willing to bet if you could get a better guy, you would have been able to now

 

Give him some reasonable ultimatums he can agree with. If he either does not agree at all (despite his claims of wanting to lose weight/work out etc.) or is not working towards them... then definitely break up.
Not brushing his teeth can already be a good enough reason to get fed up with being in a relationship with him. You decide for yourself where you draw the line.
If everything is true what you say I don't know how you think you are overreacting.

 

This.
I mean, a fat guy who suffers from mental illness.
It ain't gonna get better.

 

From my experience once the physical attraction goes away it doesn't come back, and the same is true of respect for your partner. Seems like you're wasting your time and his by staying with him.

 

under reacting.

 

Can you/he afford weight watchers?

 

Tell him he has one week..

Get him up at 5 am to exercise..if he refuses one time, leave him..lazy is nooooo good.

 

He is 12 years older, overweight, mentally ill, you aren't attracted to him, he won't even brush his teeth, he isn't the love of your life...so why are you staying? Beware of him blaming you for his life and predicament concerning you cooking...beware of that kind of thing, do not buy it at all.

 

$$$$

 

No one should expect anyone to change (for the better haha) in a relationship. That goes for both members. So given that one premise of the relationship was that he would improve with age, and that won't happen, you should leave and learn from the experience

 

If you still like him sort of.. tell him you are worried about it, but that you still like him. If you don't like him anymore, I would simply say that it isn't working out, and when he asks why tell him the truth. That you're concerned about the weight and his ambitions for doing something about it. :chef:

 

sex is great exercise

just sayin

 

What attracted you to this man in the first place? Irrespective of his weight, the picture you have painted seems to reveal this man has zero redeeming qualities.

 

Wow. Aren't you delightful.

 

I am a fat guy who suffers from mental illness. I went from 150's to 260 back down to 180's. I drink most nights. I also walk my dog everyday several times a day, up to 6 to 7 miles at a time on nice days. I am currently lifting weights and plan on swimming next summer. I was in great shape 16 years ago when I was ending being a competetive swimmer.

Seriously, psych meds cause a butt load of weight gain. If I was not on my med I would weight 175 on my heaviest day and likely 150's on my worst spells.

 

Are there any benefits to staying with this guy? Sounds like you've got some insurmountable differences.

 

Well we had a talk today, and he pretty much said "Im an adult i can do what i like, whats it to you if i eat pizza" he also claimed he did housework like wash the towels and clean the benches, stuff that I do everyday. He even said again that if I cooked better food he wouldnt eat take away. Hes left now and im packing my bags