My boyfriend is frustrated with himself for not being able to control his premature ejaculation.He often gets very upset & puts himself down after sex. (which most times lasts maybe 5 minutes) We have looked up how to fix this problem & found Kegles can help.He has been doing them,but with no effect.When he feels about to cum,he will stop & take deep breaths.Then start again.That dosen't seem to help either.I love him & I am there to comfort & offer any advice that he might be willing to listen to.But alot of times he just gets mad & dosen't talk.I don't know what to do or how to help fix this.I am his first sex partner,I'm not sure if that matters tho.Anyone have a solution that he can try? Anything at this point will help greatly
Hmm, I've noted that a lot of guys that come really quickly can also come more often. Maybe try getting him off once quickly, feeding him some OJ or an energy drink and seducing him back into arousal? Guys tend to last a lot longer the second time. Another notion, do you guys use condoms? Condoms tend to reduce sensation and increase a guy's effective stamina due to it. Another option is always lots and lots of cunnilingus.
There can be many possible reasons for this. I have been in the same place myself. There are many Sutra techniques to practice ejaculation control. Breathing helps. Maybe he is going to fast, lots of for-play and a slow start is a good way to make the pleasure last longer. Perhaps he needs to find a way to calm his energy while things start to get intense. Im glad you support him, it's not easy and requires a great deal of patience on your end and discipline on his. Its not much, but I hope this helps a bit.
Oh, another thing on the whole 'guys who come quicker can come more often' thing. It's important, in my opinion, to convince him that this aspect of his sexuality is actually a -positive-, not a negative. Our culture puts so much emphasis on the horse stamina in guys. But the rabbit stamina has some really awesome aspects too. They tend to have a level of intensity, of passion that horse guys can't easily match. And if you can get them into the mode of repeat sex, they can kick of a seriously awesome string of multiple orgasms. There's also an interesting thing I've only known rabbit guys to be able to do, and generally only on their first orgasm. No idea how it's done, you'd have to ask a guy. But I've known a couple guys who could just stay hard after coming the first time. For quite some time. Only really works if you're having sex without a condom, but it can be pretty wild. Again, no idea how that trick works, but if he figures it out, it's a lot of fun.
i don't think staying hard after cumming is any sort of trick, it just sometimes happens if you cum too fast and are still horny, and continue to stimulate the penis. i don't know anyone who is able to control their premature ejaculation...
Huh, really? I was given the impression it was some sort of muscle control thing. I know not all guys who go off prematurely do it. Particularly guys who get all embarrassed about going off quickly don't. I've actually only known a couple guys who could do it and they did it almost every time. So I sorta believed it when one said it was some sort of sexual technique.
i don't know, maybe there is a way to force it that i don't know about. i just know i've done it a few times under the conditions i described, and i certainly wasn't consciously employing any tricks at the time.
Well, the conditions you described could certainly have played a factor in the incidences where I've experienced this, so, I don't know. Quick ejaculation, evidently still horny(as it was usually the first of several rounds), and continued stimulation, as we just kept on going as if it hadn't happened.
Thank you very much for the advise & insight.I will have to find some Sutra books & look at them together & possibly I can get him to almost cum,stop,start again repeat.I'll also do the fast orgasm then I'll seduce him back to bliss & see if he can last longer that way.I knew there had to be options,just didn't know where to find them
