I have been together with my girlfriend for almost three years now. We have had a great relationship. It had always been of fantasy of mine to see her with another man or in a MFM. I told her about a year into our relationship and she never thought i was a weirdo or freak she just told me it was normal for a guy to have those fantasies. That was left at that. Since then i have always tried to find a guy to join us. The problem about all this i was never honest to her and telling her that i was actually looking for a guy to join us in bed. One time i met a couple online and told them if they wanted to get together for drinks, they agreed and we all met. I told my girlfriend that we were meeting a friend of mine and his wife when in reality we were meeting a random couple. My girlfriend was having a blast drinking with them until she finally found out that they were a swinging couple because her and the wife went to the restroom together. After she seem like she didn't care and continued to drink but I knew she was mad at me. Anyway we all agreed to go to a hotel that's when i realized my girlfriend was mad for lying to her and not telling her the truth about this swinging couple. She told me if we did anything that we were over. I told her lets leave i will not throw away three years for one night with this couple. She told me no we are doing this i want to do it. So i went along with it and we swapped and had a lot of sex and a great time with the other couple. The next morning she was mad and i really thought our relationship was over. We had our problems since then but always seemed to work it out it has been over three months since this happened. She now tells me that it was wrong what we did that she can't believe she did that. She told me that i was a pervert and all. She has forgiven me and we are still together. The part that confuses me is that she told me that she enjoyed the other guy fucking her. Know when me and my girlfriend have sex she always tells me if i want to see her with other guys and that she wants to get fucked by big cocks. She is very sexual and all and loves to have sex. She also is very flirty with other guys in front of me but the thing she has always been like that. I would still want to see her do a MFM with me and another guy but I don't want to push nothing anymore because i love her and don't wan to lose her. My girlfriend loves me as well and loves everything about me. We are both very sexual but like i said don't want to lose her but again would like for her to experiment with other guys. I have an average cock and giver her good sex but would like for her to get fully pleasured by taking bigger cocks. Anyway i'm very unselfish and only care of her to be satisfied never once have i told her that i want a FFM or be with another girl. The fantasy has always been for a MFM nothing more. But i would like to get advice on what to do if you were in my situation our swinging experience was a mistake but that made my girlfriend change sexually. What can I do to emphasize about my fantasy and to see if she wants to find another guy for it. Any advice will help. Or should i just drop this altogether?
Don't push it...let it lie for awhile. If she truly enjoyed it, she will bring it up again. You can only cause problems by pushing. In my third divorce opinion don't push. If she wants it to happen she will let you know.
Here is the thing my friend. No matter how much she may have seemed to, or even actually enjoyed the experience, you lied to the person you love the most to get something that you wanted. What you did was genuinely dispicable. My wife and I have been in the lifestyle for over a decade and we've been in most of the situations you can think of. I have heard of other people talking their wives into things, but never this kind of outright lie to trick her into a situation in which she feels obliged to participate in order to avoid embarrassment. You owe her the deepest possible appology...and you probably don't deserve to be forgiven.
Agreed.. do not push it.. but at the same time, keep the doors of communication wide open.. there will be a lot of feelings and situations to discuss now and if this were to go on in the future.. and make sure this is what you both want.
Our first time turned out bad, but it was not planned just with friends on a new years eve. After too much partying. we paired off, but before long Jan and the other guy, returned to the room where me and the other lady was. He told her that maybe this wasn't a good idea. But by the time they came into the room we were in, it was too late. There was a bit of tension, for awhile, but everything worked out. A few months later we attended a party, with other couples. Jan hooked up with a single male, one of the couples had invited. Hearing stories from her girlfriends, about sex with well endowed men. She always wanted to find out for herself. That night she did, and was very happy, and wanted to swing more.
I at one time had a problem with the thought of the swinging thing until my boyfriend now had done it with his ex and it sorta bothered me, but now it dosent and I have had a chance to look into it and see what it is all about to the point if he were to ask me I think I would actually be ok with it ( I hope he dosent) I f he did I would open up a whole new world for me and it would scare me because I would problay like it and I am a jealous person over him so to see him with another girl would upset me and i dont know if that is a door I am willing to open. I dont think you did anything wrong and she seemed to have like it. best of luck with you guys.
