Hi all,My wife and I have been marrried some 30 odd years,and only once have i strayed from home but that is another story. What it is, is for all those years when we had sex she has always been very moist as soon as we have foreplay and when she climaxed (body shaking, crying out etc) she didn,t get any wetter, but lately she believes she is peeing herself, the first time she was disgusted but the other day she wasn't as upset about it, for me I think it is a real turn on and wondered if she is experiencing a true orgasm. Would luv to know from a womans perspective what they think.
Hi Annwyn, Yes I was wondering if this was the case, as I have said I do think this is a real turn on and would love it if she does it again,but as it has not happened in all those years of sex why just now ? Maybe I have been doing it wrong for all those years LOL, its not that we were trying a different position ,her favourite position is sitting on top, and its when she is in this position that she squirts. Again any ideas on how to improve the regularity of this would be grateful.
If the wetness comes from the vagina .... it really means she is just very turned on: it makes you an absolute Adonis: a love machine. If it originates from the urethra and accompanies an orgasm, she could easily be having a fabled "female ejaculation" Why investigate too deeply??? If you're enjoying being part of it, if she is developing a liking for what happens ...... just let rip and enjoy the whole thing. Labels can so spoil sex!
Hi silk896, I agree with you about labels , and the reason I 'm asking questions is because of this "female ejaculation" I have seen porn where the woman is squirting away and i'm sure she is just peeing, as said before the wife has only recently started this and i haven't really investigated where its coming from as she is sitting astride me. I must tell her to call me Adonis whenever she feels it cumming on. Thanks for your reply
I'd love to be able to make my wife squirt. I've only ever made one gf in my life squirt, but both of us were so young we had no idea and thought it was pee. To this day I still don't get the whole squirting thing for a woman as it just doesn't make much sense to me, but on the other hand I'd love to pleasure my wife in any way possible too.
I know for me personally, inhibitions made it nearly impossible to squirt until recently. The first time it happened I was shocked and wasn't even sure what it was. There is still so much that is unknown about female ejaculation, if it exists and how it works. I know just by talking to other women, very few, if any, have ever squirted like they do in the porn films. In those they are going for affect not reality. Based on my research and my own experiences, I do believe it exists, but not every woman will squirt and even those who do, won't do so each and every time.
When you see it in a porn film it looks so unreal.Maybe more women/ couples should talk more about it and maybe then there will be more understanding of female ejaculation. For me it is a very sexual experience and I think my wife is also enjoying it as the first time it happened she was shocked but the last time she seemed to enjoy it more.Cant wait for the next time
I have ejaculated since puberty (I'm now nearly 57!), though it wasn't until I was in my 20s that I found out that what I was experiencing was female ejaculation, I just assumed that my vaginal secretions were in overdrive before! But it wasn't until I was 30 & doing regular pelvic floor exercises following childbirth that I started to "squirt"! That first time was a real shock, had i not been to the toilet to pee 15 minutes earlier I would have thought that I had just pissed myself! But i knew I had an empty bladder & the fluid spurting out coincided with a climax, so I knew it was in fact an ejaculation. I ejaculate anything up to 10/12 times a session, we have to use a large bath towel on the bed to prevent soaking the bedding!
Its nice to find out what other women's experiences are on this subject .Naturegirl you seem a very sexual lady when you have been experiencing this from such a young age, does it still feel as good now as it did when you were younger ? I just hope my wife starts to become more active sexually and enjoys the pleasure of this experience.
It's very possible she will. I have a more active sex life now than I did when I was younger.. I'm just a bit older than Naturegirl, and I agree with what she said. My orgasms are now more powerful and more plentiful than ever before. It's been great.
Annwyn, its great to hear you are having a more active sex life now than when you were younger, and got me thinking of when my Mrs and I were young ,I have always been a touchy feely guy coming up behind her and rubbing her hips or cupping her breasts and we or should I say I wanted sex nearly every day and the Gf at the time had to keep me in check but I must say she and I were pretty active sex wise. As we got married things were still the same but of course we had more opertunity until the kids came along .After they left home her sex drive seemed to dwindle and then she went through the menopause where it was only once in a while we made love.For the past few years (not always)she has been wakening up strangely on a Saturday feeling really horny and its her who has been making the first move,if she has been lying facing me I would feel her leg coming over mine and pulling my leg against her pussy.What I was thinking was when we were younger was it like "wham bam thank you mam" and if thinks were not good it was the other person to blame and now we are more mature do we just go with the flow be more relaxed about it and enjoy it for it is worth. I still am that touchy feely guy but understand that she is not always going to respond and may be (hopefully) she will like you be more active sexually.
In some respects it feels even better! At my age I cherish every climax, every orgasm, every pleasant sensation. I have learned to focus on the sensations, helped in some part by the teachings of a very good Tantra therapist a couple of years back. In my youth I was just intent on having a good time!
I think a lot of people discover when they get older, is that we are not in such a hurry anymore... we sometimes take longer to get aroused (but not always) and we can't always last as long in the main event. But foreplay.. now this is an area where it pays to take a whole lot of time. And foreplay shouldn't just start when you hop into bed (or where ever you want to fuck) but hours before hand. Read about having sex... look at pictures... watch porn... Sext one another during the day, talking about what you'd like to do or see. Writing them down is sometimes easier than saying them out loud. Listen to music that is sexually suggestive to you (may not be the same thing for everyone)... make a sex music play list. It works like conditioning... every time you listen to certain songs, you will get horny... (Nights in White Satin, Kashmir and Moving in Stereo do it for me.. every. single. time!!) Write an erotic novel together... Who knows, you might get it published and make oodles of money. Buy some sexy clothes to wear.. sure they might not stay on long, but that is the point. One night I wore just black yoga pants and nothing else and he went nuts, even though he is constantly saying he just wants me naked. I'm almost always naked so this was a nice twist. Women should be encouraged to masturbate. A lot. Several times a day!!! Practice makes perfect. Look into some kinky things. You don't have to engage the entire BDSM lifestyle, just adopt some of the ideas from it. You'd be surprised at what it can do... Sex should be fun!! Too many people turn it into work.
I find myself nodding in agreement with everything you say! Even the masturbate several times a day.....which could be pushing the boundaries a bit TOO far in my case, 2 or 3 times a week is enough for me! Quite a few years back Phil & I allowed a very close female friend to photograph us making love, the photos were very explicit, but to this day we find ourselves going back to that photo album, it never fails to get us very, very aroused!
I masturbate several times a day now, but I know what you mean. Before I was lucky if I did it once a week. My health has improved over the past 6 months and that has made a huge difference in how horny I am. Everyone needs to find their own rhythm and honor that.
fluid can come from the urethra that is from orgasm, it is not pee..... make sure she pees before you start so she feels more comfortable.
There can be incontinence associated with orgasm. That may or may not be what is happening. Sniff the stuff. Pee always smells like pee. So called ejaculate does not. It is mkst often described as odorless. Mine smells like rasins though.
Sounds like she is probably squirting! Why now after all this time who knows. I would not question it and just enjoy. My lady squirted for the first time a couple months into our relationship. After that first time there was no stopping her. It was like the damn was opened. Both of us love it and for myself it makes the sex even more exciting.
