I'm just a little confused as to how my body works and am wondering if anyone's got advice. Basically, I have a ridiculously high sex drive, to the point of where it's caused problems in multiple relationships because the guy wasn't enough and wasn't willing to try an open relationship. The guy I'm with now is the closest match to my sex drive that I've found, but even then there's still a big difference between our libidos. And to make matters worse, it's very, VERY difficult for a guy to get me to orgasm. In fact, the guy I'm currently with is the only guy who's ever done it. I don't understand why it's so difficult. I can make myself cum in under a minute, but I can only do it by going really fast and using a lot of pressure. I know you're supposed to tell the guy how you do it in order to help them out, but no guy can go fast enough. I'm not trying to bash the guys or brag about how fast I go because it's really the only way I can make myself cum and it's incredibly tiring. When I've told guys how I do it, they usually try and imitate it and they either go way too slow, or they go too hard and pinch a nerve down there. I've tried making myself orgasm by going slower, but it just doesn't work. I cum the most often and most reliably during 69. It takes a while, but I eventually do (thank god i've got a guy who likes going down on me!). Occasionally I'll cum twice during one 69 session, which is amaaazing. When the guy just goes down on me and we don't 69, it feels great but it takes much longer for me to orgasm. When the guy fingers me, it feels amazing--but not in a way that could make me cum. Especially whenever he gets really deep, it's so awesome, but at the same time I feel like he could do it for hours and I wouldn't have an orgasm, it would just stay at feeling realllly good. I don't know how to describe it because it feels better than oral in a way, but it just doesn't give me an orgasm. Out of all the times I've been fingered, I've only cum once, and that was because I was on the brink of orgasming thanks to oral. So you'd think that if fingers feel amazing, a penis would feel even better right? Wrong. I have no idea why, but as soon as the dick goes in it feels about as good as putting in a tampon. It doesn't hurt, it doesn't feel uncomfortable, but it doesn't feel good. It just...happens. It's not a size thing because I've had this issue with both big and little guys. If anything, smaller dicks are easier because bigger ones get into the uncomfortable, occasionally painful range. Plus doggystyle's my favorite position, and even a guy who's between 6 or 7 inches can make it too uncomfortable to tolerate for long. I've tried different positions, different speeds, angles, using lube. Nothing seems to make it actually feel good. But I still enjoy sex because the act of it is hot. And sex provides lots of opportunities for hair pulling and spanking and stuff Is there something wrong with me? Do I have a broken vagina or something? Why do fingers feel sooo good, but sex is practically yawn-worthy?
I dont think there is anything wrong with you. Lots of women are like that. Do you enjoy doing that? I reckon enjoy the sex and make the masturbation part of it.
One thing you might try . Have sex , let him cum , weight maby a half hour then do it again , when I do this I can go a long time . desert rat
I mean, the issue isn't that he doesn't last long enough for me to have an orgasm. I feel like he could go for hours and hours, and I wouldn't be any closer to cumming than when we'd started. I just wish the sex actually felt good; according to him and a million other people, it feels amazing and they'd die without having sex. Me, I could never have sex again and I'd be perfectly fine with it
You might check out tantra yoga http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tantric_sex#Tantric_sexuality There is a lot more on the net on tantra that is easy to find . desert rat
So your issue has to do with the intercourse act only or the fact that orgasms are harder for you? What is your mental state like during these attempts to chase an orgasm? It could be that your mentally to tense to get to the orgasm that the over-thinking thought process is complicating the relaxation process that need to come in the first place. The other aspect of this could just be physiological, and that's just how your nerve cells work in the vaginal area, needing a high activation threshold. Is friction burn the problem both on the vulva and in the vaginal canal or is it some other sensation you get once it gets 'uncomfortable'?
