Opposites attract: myth or truth?

I've heard time and time again that opposites attract. I'm not so sure that is true anymore. I've dated a few girls and we all had a lot of things in common. There was however one that was truly an opposite. Needless to say that didn't last very long. Nobody's fault. Just easy come, easy go. To make a long and probably boring story short I tend to gravitate towards girls/women who are similar to myself. While opposites attract may still hold true for some I wonder if that entire idea has gone out of style?

 

It's true but you can't make it a law.

 

I have no idea...

 

Eh, not in my case. The best relationships I have ever had were with girls who were similar to me in personality.
When I would date girls who were different it didn't last very long at all.

 

I'm in a relationship now with another woman who I share some similarities and some differences with, too...Its been good for the three months we've been together. .

 

I think common interests are good
But sometimes opposite personalities and temperaments can be good because you can balance each other out..like a calm introvert with a fiery extrovert, they could help draw out the parts the other person is lacking and tame the parts the other has too much of

 

It is; for me, a matter of Balance - Common and Separate interests, this allows a degree of communication, interaction and perhaps more intimate liaison to be that of variety and individuality

 

I wish I had said that ..Sooooooo true

 

I'm very similar to my partner but also very different. We have the same opinions politically and socially.We differ in people skills. She has them and I do not. She has less of a temper. Like I actuly get mad and if she's mad I know it's a big deal.

I think this phase applies for my life. What is opposite helps me and I like to think I help her somehow. Someone has to open those jars and reach the things on the top shelf.

 

Very cool response. .

 

Opposites only attract because likes also attract, and love resembles gravity more then electrodynamics. Taoists like to say, Gravity is the source of lightness! But, only because we are all born to fall on our butts! Life obviously requires both love and sense of humor, so you might as well laugh more often.

 

Makes sense to me..I'm learning alot on this site!

 

I dunno, I might find someone who is the polar opposite of me interesting but I don't think it would work between us long-term.

 

I dunno, I'm a lesbian so straight off the bat opposites did not attract.

My wife and I are much different though. I'm a bit of rough and tumble, she's a bit of high class. This makes us quite a versatile couple. She don't mind getting dirty and I don't mind sipping tea and doings arts and crafts.

 

hotness attracts. similarities/opposites determine longevity.

 

I don't believe that entirely. Physical attraction at the spur of the moment yes, but I've spoken to people online for years before meeting and even though I didn't know what they looked like ever, and wasn't physically attracted to them when I did meet them, the connection of the friendship we shared made me attracted to them. Personality counts, when you're not looking for a one nighter.

 

No truer statement. It's not about opposites attracting but how likes and dislikes are meshed. She likes rock and roll and antiques. He's country, pickup trucks, and NASCAR. But she learns his likes and he does hers. She doesn't really care for NASCAR but will be happy to ride in his truck to the race. He could care less if that chair he will never sit in is older than his grandparents but will gladly haul it home in his truck. They both celebrate the joy that the other finds in their life and give of themselves to make it work. They do this because they want to. It's not about sex. It's about being together and merging goals, dreams, and desires.

 

Who's this dude? You? Cause let's talk nascar.

 

All I know is that, before I decided that I might entertain a real relationship at age 23, I made a compatibility checklist for any girl I dated more than once. My wife was one of only two who ever passed the test. And, if I were young and looking today, the two things that would be on the top of my list would be religion and politics. I could never stay with a Christian or a Trumper.

 

It can work for some .

Having common ground though does make things easier and are more likely to agree with each other and therefore less arguments.