Opinion On Dating Chubby Or Fat Girls?

Hey, new here ^^;
I was looking for guys opinions on dating larger than the average girls. From what I've read, they aren't keen on the idea at all..? Why is this? Any specific reasons? I'm not looking on why they should be used for 1night stands and so on.
Pros and cons..?
I just want to see where I stand In the dating community. If I should even try or what not. ^^

I'm a larger girl, 5'6 ish and 180lb. I have a thinner waist, but I wouldn't say I'm curvy.
( i am also very muscular, due to fat probably, but I can lift 250lbs. Never tried more)

 

Pros: Given how self conscious they are about their weight and their belief that they're not attractive to men, they put in a lot of effort in the relationship.
You can enjoy grabbing take away with them and food in general and not have to sit through "I'll just grab a salad."
They put a lot of effort into sex, unlike some slimmer girls who might think "Oh I'm sexy as hell, I'll just lie here."
They typically don't have that massive ego complex that slimmer girls have, so they're easier to get along with and tend to have better personalities.

Cons: More expensive food dates
You can't make fat jokes.
You're seen as having low standards if you date chubby girls.
Their bodies aren't as pleasing to the eye.

 

I think it comes down to preferences. I have a friend who only dates larger ladies. I have no idea why that is his preference because I have never been curious enough to ask him.

 

One night stands is 100% eye candy.
Longer relationships is 100% personality.

 

I think there are some chubby girls that are hot.

I have a friend who is XXL. Not attracted to her, but love her personality, she is a good friend.

 

There are plenty of attractive women who are a little chubby. There is a big difference between that and being fat and sloppy looking (which is very unattractive). A little bit of meat on a woman can be a big turn-on, as women's bodies are intended to carry more fat. That's also what gives a woman those nice curves.

I dated a girl a few months ago who was chubby (and about two inches taller than me), but attractive and sexy as hell. But she was about 10 years younger than me also. The sex was also incredible, too.

 

I love to see that gunt slightly protruding from a mid drift on an attractive lady...

30ish pounds past the average for height my interests start to slow down

by 50 over I need to be hammered.....past that is a deal breaker.....


I am a wee bit shallow and somewhat superficial though....just being straight

 

Danke for all the replies so far ^^
Just trying to learn the do's and don'ts of being a fat gf xD
* eat on dates, buy my own meal
* keep personalty
* obey the master xD

I totally understand why guys would rather have thinner girls for sex, dating, etc. No shame to you ^^ most girls are picky as hell xD

 

are you talking bench press, deadlift, or what? big differences there.

 

I've only tried bench press, I doubt I could carry 250 lbs more on my legs
( it's hard enough for me to pick something off the floor, boobs weigh enough xD )
though I carry my older brother ( only 180-190lbs (so it's a lot less)) on my back, or like a baby ^^

 

eat on dates but you dont have to buy your own meal. i think if a guy dont buy you a meal on the first date hes being cheap as fuck or doesn't want to date you. usually i never pay for anything, because im trying to let the girl know that im only in it for sex, not to go on dates, not to buy her dinner, not to see movies etc.

and if you want him to really be interested in something other than sex, you should challenge his personality, stupid girls are boring dates.

 

Just be "you" and the right guy will like you for everything that you are. Plenty of guys like girls with a little extra.

 

my dick is to big for skinny girls.. just saying.

 

This.

I've been attracted to chubby girls in the past myself. I still do find them attractive as long as they also appear healthy. The way I see it, though, it's really more about the person than anything else. Attractive people are attractive regardless of whether they are chubby or slim.

 

to be honest, it's the social stigma. You probably don't know the content of guy talk even if you'd like to imagine you do. the stigma is real.

I really dont give a fuck though. I've dated chubby girls before and I've dated skinny girls before, the only difference is that skinny girls are self concious and the pressure of the drive to be thin and skinny is ridiculous. I hate it. It makes me physically ill to see the lengths that they'd go through just to look "cute" or "sexy".

It's a thing. Chubby girls are more prone to having awesome hobbies and past times. I won't date someone i can't have a conversation with, and as soon as i see the mask of makeup and fake lashes, I either check out, or get her number for a booty call. I don't trust people that put on masks.

I like thick girls with the hips and ass and the taugh curvy waist, I like chubby girls that have the tiny little pooch in front and dimples above their ass.

I don't like the fat apron or rolls.

Some guys are into that though. It's a changing world and america definitely has two sets of dangerous beauty standards.

If you're asking what I find sexy though, its intelligence confidence motivation personality independence and then an attractive aesthetic.

and dont be a cling.

 

Coming from a pansexual female's view:

I find chubby girls attractive. Not because they stereotypically "try harder during sex, will eat food with me, etc"

You can't say that all chubby girls will try harder in relationships or that they'll act a certain way, so I don't find chubby girls attractive for these random qualities that people assume they have. I'm attracted to chubby girls because I like their bodies.

My advice to you as a chubby girl dating is:

1) Be confident in your body. It's really, annoying and saddening, when a girl is always down on her body. "I'm so fat, I'm so ugly, I don't look good in any of my clothes, I hate my reflection.." You don't need to look a certain way to be beautiful. Just work with what you have- if you have curves, flaunt them. If you like your face, eyes, nose, play those up with makeup or accessories. Don't be afraid or insecure about dressing stylishly- if you love the leggings fashion craze, wear leggings. Dress in a way that makes you feel good- not necessarily in a way that makes you LOOK good for others. If you can't love yourself, how do you expect someone else to love you?
2) You're awesome- put it out there! Don't be afraid to give yourself credit for how awesome you are. Talk about the things you're good at, the things you're passionate about, your hobbies, your interests. Maybe you love dancing in your livingroom- cool! Maybe you enjoy singing- take him out for karaoke! Instead of letting someone focus on your chubbiness, focus their attention on all your best attributes.
3) The biggest one- be yourself. You don't need to dress, act, or present yourself in a certain way just because you're chubby. You don't owe it to a person to "make up" for your appearance. If your boyfriend was overweight, you wouldn't expect him to treat you extra well to make up for it. You love him for him. Be who you are and the right person who jives with you will come. You don't wanna live your life pretending to be a different person and never find that person that clicks with you- the real you.


Best of luck in the dating adventure!

 

confidence is attractive....it has to do with your own self and not putting someone else down...which would be arrogance to feel better about yourself. Confidence does not make fun of someone else.....arrogance does.

 

I am usually into thinner girls, but I could be into a larger than average girl if she had a really pretty face and her thighs were still wider than her waist. You could be a bigger girl and still be fit, but people just don't find unhealthy people attractive in general. Fat people are unhealthy and humans find that ugly, presumably with some sort of evolutionary or sociobiological justification.

I could definitely be attracted to a larger lady though, but it really depends on the person. Most of my relationships were with thin white girls, but probably the hottest girl I have ever been with was a big brown girl and she had a little bit of fat on her but she was really curvy and amazing looking

 

I think people who have the preference for skinny or chubby individuals don't make the majority. Basically, yea.... there are a ton of guys that prefer skinny girls over chubby girls. And we can go on and on about how it's this way because of social programming that forces us to think that skinny means better in all fields, especially romance. And there are a ton of guys that prefer chubby girls over skinny girls. Again we can go on and on about how it's this way because of perverted fetishes. Point is neither group overshadows the majority of guys that simply hang out with a girl and sooner or later develops feelings for her because she is kickass awesome. Guys are like us. They spend time with us, we spend time with them, and something happens. End of story.

Yes, we all do have preferences. We lay at night thinking about our ideal mate and mostly we think about their looks. But, when it comes to real life people are willing to overlook their preferences, because other aspects outweigh those preferences.

 

When I was dating, looks never really never meant anything to me. 9 years ago, when I met the woman who is my wife now (I found here ), she weighed 220 pounds and dressed like a trucker. She had self-confidence and trust issues, but all of that meant nothing to me, because I could see what kind of a person that she was on the inside.

Let me express to anyone reading this, that this is not a quality that the majority of men share--I am RARE. In all truthfulness, most guys, instead of using their brain, will assess a woman using their dick first.