It's a big movement on Reddit...I see the benefits of it. Especially because of porn. Has anyone ever tried to quit masturbating? If so, how long did you make it? How often do you watch porn when you jerk it? Has your masturbation caused problems in your relationships or any physical problems (ED)? Do you prefer masturbation over real sex? Let's have a conversation about the pros and cons of self-pleasure shall we?
In many ways I prefer mutual (male-female) masturbation or being masturbated by a paid provider to sex.. I am not in a situation that really enables me to have a close relationship with a woman at this point in my life. I work far from home for months, and work long hours. And I won't have casual sex with a woman I don't know. So, mostly I masturbate or I pay a woman to do it for me. At the moment I can't sleep because I need to orgasm in the worst way, but I found a woman I want to visit in a couple days who will spend 1 - 2 hours with me, mutually naked. She will edge me then bring me to orgasm. So, I'm trying to hold off 'till then. I need to cum RIGHT NOW though..
I watch very little porn But ... To give up masturbation?????? HELL NO! a) It feels too good b) How would I get to sleep without my nightly "sleeping pill." c) When you have as little actual sex as i do ..... 'nuff said.
At the age of 56 I'm just very happy to have a healthy sex drive. No Viagra needed here... I just woke with a nice erection. I'm going to wait one more day before going to see my new "friend"..
Abstinence is serious business in some cultures. I have mixed background (ethnically and ideologically) and I went through a 3.5-4 year phase during which I didn't masturbate, and I still know many who take their 'chastity' and 'purity' very seriously and would avoid anything that may have even the potential of arousing them. They often end up moving to isolated, rural areas, or leave the US altogether just to avoid the onslaught of stimuli. During my four years (I was in my early twenties BTW) I had an explosive wet dream every 3-10 weeks. I avoided encounters with the opposite sex like they were wild beasts. I fasted frequently and had a low fat diet (now, more than %40 of my calories come from clean fats leading to much higher testosterone as well as great numbers in the gym). Just like there are real and physiologically effective aphrodisiacs, there are effective anaphrodisiac. I know a lot about the latter, and I'm learning about the former, and it seems that the secret is mostly deliberate practice.
Thanks for the reply. Very interesting information that you shared. I appreciate it. I notice myself feeling different when I don't masturbate for a while. More energy and more focus and confidence.
I think there is a gender difference in masturbation. As a woman, if I don't orgasm for too long then I get really hostile really quickly. Being angry at the world may give me more energy, but not clearer focus. It also curbs my confidence. Maybe it's conditioning, but I am not in a good place when I abstain from all pleasure.
You're welcome! I somehow miss those days. But now, with all the grass-fed meat and dairy I'm inhaling, it would take too much effort for me not to masturbate. Sometime I go a round or two right before walking into the gym, and the first thing I see is a balmy, voluptuous, perfectly tan 20 year old Californian doing slow, wide stance squats, and I find myself already thinking about my next round. But I'm still eager to feel the sensation of going more than few days without masturbating. I may even do it this week.
I wank almost any day that I don't get other sex. I see no reason to abstain or limit it. Masturbation is completely natural, safe, and very pleasurable.
I much prefer sex with someone, so much more multi-dimensional and stimulating, but sometimes when the urge arises one just has to improvise - and besides it is so pleasurable.
I would say Im honestly more mentally stable/happier when I dont masturbate and just get sex. But it feels fuking good after a stressfull day so I indulge every now and then ie once every two weeks. You do it too much and the dopamine release takes over and it affects daily life and confidence. So yes I feel this "nofap" helps but anything in moderation is ok. Within reason
After eight days of nofapping, I went big yesterday. My initial deduction is this: depending on one's diet, lifestyle, testosterone...etc, orgasming, from a strictly physiological point of view, can be good, and it can be bad. If you live a clean life that's conducive to healthy/supercharged libido, then you wouldn't be able to go without fapping for as long as someone who has junk running through his blood. I'm a health fanatic, and I probably have enough free testosterone in my blood stream to go around an entire Amazonian tribe. So after few days of restricting myself, I began to transform back to the timid, childish looser I was when I went for more than three years without masturbation. But I've also learned from experience that if I masturbate more than twice daily for a week or longer, I begin to feel sluggish and with lower energy level. It seems to me that there's a threshold and a point of balance that's directly correlated to one's wellness level.
I quit about every other day. In all seriousness I see no reason to quit completely or abstain for a given length of time per say. I think it's like most things in life, too much of anything is probably not a good thing. My personal opinion is I think excessive porn can desensitize you more so than excessive masturbation.
After abstaining for a while,especially when forced upon you, following surgery, for example, when you're really busting to, but know you have to restrain yourself from the urge, the first time you masturbate afterwards although not lasting long before you reach a climax, results in an amazing orgasm. Just go back in time & remember the first time you ever masturbated. All those years of abstention. Admittedly most of those don't count, as they're pre-puberty, but the latter period does count as it leads from the time that your body is physically capable of attaining an orgasm, to the first time you discover what an orgasm is & how to bring it about, resulting in that very first experience being absolutely mind-blowing. The point is, that you must decide whether it's worth abstaining in order to reach a single orgasm that is more intense than usual, whilst at the same time yielding the other everyday pleasures. Orgasm-wise it can be considered as having each everyday orgasm as being 'x' units of orgasmic pleasure divided by half the cumulative number of days gone without (eg 3 days without, might result in an orgasm 1½ times as intense - 10 days = 5 times as intense, etc.). However, the duration of the session has the opposite effect. With everyday masturbation it's possible to take your time & make the ongoing sensations last out, whereas the longer you abstain, the more you become hair-triggered & can be quite likely to cum within a minute or 2, instead of being able to draw it out for an hour or so. So, you must decide whether or not a single intense orgasm is sufficient reward for the sacrifice of all the lesser ones.
Truth. Two or three times recently I've abstained for 7 - 9 days .. Last summer I was working some extreme hours and getting almost no sleep for weeks. I abstained for perhaps 12 days. After I had rested and recovered a bit. the orgasm could only have been described as "mind-blowing".
