This is horrible. My girlfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago, but that's not the problem. I find out, from her, thank god, that she's going out with this total asshole that is NOT a good person AT ALL. She tells me she's fucking giving him head. I asked her when it happened, and she said, "The last time?" That killed me. She's been doing it and hasn't told me at all. I'm afraid that this guy, who happens to be over 200 pounds and is 5'6", half a foot shorter than her, will get her hurt or killed. He drives like an angry maniac. I asked her if she'd fuck him and she said probably. I don't want her to! He so doesn't deserve her sexually. Somebody please help me on this. I know I should be happy for her, but I just don't know how. It makes me nauseaous (is that spelled right?) when I think about her doing things to someone else. How can I deal with this? Like, a week after we broke up this started. I'm so weirded out and I'm going crazy over this. I just can't deal with it. He's a horrible person, and I don't want her to just keep on doing shit to him and end up just being used by him. I need help with this. Please.
it's heartbreaking to someon you care for putting themselves into a bad situation. however, there really isn't much at all you can do for her. this is her path, this is her decision, these will be her life lessons. we all have similar choices and lessons to learn. all you can do is make yourself available to help her should she ask for it.
you MIGHT write her a letter and disappear when shes going to read it.. she should read it and hear what you say obviously, and tell her to WRITE you back, because people usually edit themselves when writing, so she might analyze her thoughts MORE than usual, and cut out some of the angry insults. tell her you understand she might think you're jello-us but that jello-usy is ugly and you arent green eyed, just worried, etc... tell her what you told us... but DONT make it condescending or rude. write calmly.... I dunno, just think about the letter idea. works for me when the other person just doesnt understand the words I say.
geez man...that's rough...i went through this too after my last break up...my girlfriend got back together with her first ex and litterally did this right after we broke up. the other girl was a total bitch...and a cow...and she was just a really destructive person...she really messed with my girlfriend and it was a terrible situation...of course i handled it like any other highschool melodramatic freshman would...i freaked out and stopped talking to her...which was dumb...i say if you still care for her just be there because she could end up in deep touble...i mean...i came back to my ex when she really needed help...she'll realize that she made a mistake...hopefully
