oh god this hurts so bad

my b/f relapsed on heroin. im scared. im hurt. i dont know what to do. i love him so much it hurts so bad to watch him kill himself in front of me. please, if there is a god, please help him now. please please please help him now. he's such a wonderful person he doesnt deserve the hell he's going thru. please god help him.

 

oh, man, i'm so sorry. i'm especially sorry to tell you, that relationship is IN THE PAST. there's no going back. move forward. i nearly got dragged down into something like that because i loved him so much. thank god i got out. damn, man. i'm REALLY sorry. time and living well WILL heal you, though. y'all don't have the bond of children, do you? because there's no good that comes of raising children around a drug addict.

 

i cant leave him now. i really cant. i told him that if he ever did it again that id leave him, even if i didnt want to. and no, we dont have any children together. but really, he's the first good b/f i've had. as bad as that sounds, he really is the best thing that ever happened to me. i've been in and out of abusive relationships and he treats me so well. he would never lay a hand on me except to pull me into a hug. hes so wonderful i dont want to lose him over this horrible drug.

 

mine went south like that, too. all you'll become is the classic codependent enabler. doesn't matter. he's got a new girl now.

 

*shakes head*

just let him die

 

william burroughs lived a long time as a junky

I don't know how the hell he did it

 

please dont say that i already cried enough today.

 

youre 19. youve got plenty of time to find a nonabusive, nonaddicted person worth dating

 

miracles happen, I've been clean and sober for 20 years next week. But unfortunately I've been to more the one of my friend funerals in my life due to drugs and alcohol. My prayers will be with you

 

Sweetheart you are going to have to walk away. He has chosen heroin.

You do not want to watch where this is going to take him. God helps people who help themselves.

His god is heroin now. The person you know is gone.

I am so sorry.

 

listen, i SWEAR, the only way my ex ever got clean was to not to have me to lean on anymore.

 

i cant do it. i cant leave him. not now. he was on methadone when we started dating, and he said he wanted to get clean for me. now that hes off the methadone hes in so much pain, and he saw how much it hurt me to see him in that pain. so i guess his solution to that problem was to go back to the drugs. he thought he could get off it on his own. he just confessed to me today that hes been doing it almost daily since he got off his meds.

i should have seen it coming. i knew he wasnt getting better. i just didnt want to admit it to myself.

god my heart aches. i dont want to lose someone else to drugs, especially not someone i love this much. this is so painful. i cant stop crying.

 

you're gonna do what you're gonna do. good luck.

 

thanks. im not going to leave him. but thank you so much for your advice and sympathy.

 

if you're going this route, take care of yourself first. do NOT enable him to reach his contact. he's going to do his thing. give him no money, no phone, nothing but food, no joke. get your sleep, take nothing, find your true friends and family, and anchor yourself. it's gonna be a terrible blow.

 

hey love, if you really love him, you'll leave him... it's really the only shot he's got. no one gets clean off that shit when they're that deep in without hitting absolute rock bottom first. if you are with him, you are an enabler, and are only hurting HIM and YOURSELF. but god, best of luck to you, i hope you can break free. don't be a goddamned dramatic fool.

 

Enjoy watching him slowly die...

He is going to die. Not that that makes any difference, his soul is already dead.

 

Hey sweetie,

Just be there for him, I know it is hard. I mean, well one of my good friends was addicted to meth. She asked me for my help and I told her once I say yes, I'm gonna ride your ass till you clean. It has been 3 years since she has touched any type of drug. She smokes cigerettes, but no drugs. Just be there, ride his ass. Don't be afaird to yell at him for being stupid.

Tiffany

 

:cheers2:

 

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