o' baby! lick, touch, rub me... Why isnt this working?

Has anyone ever had the big "O" problem??

I havent ever gotten an orgasim from any of my lovers...
whats wrong with me ??

I am sure that the boys have tried everything to get me off, but yea, just doesnt happen


I can get my self to orgasim usually within 30-45 min ....

But no guy has that kinda patients, that i have dated....


Maybe its just me??

 

I got together with a woman in 95 who had the same challenge. It took till 98 for the big O, but when it happened it was big. She was finally open, relaxed, and trusting enough to let go and also, at the time it happened I was being pursued by a couple other women, and that drove her nuts....I think it helped.

 

Sheesh BlackGuard, at first when you were saying 95 and 98, I thought you were talking about AGE.

I was like "WOAH, NELLY!"

 

rawr Cougar

anyways.. umm.. thanks for the comments haha

 

I hope I am still gettin busy at that age......I saw a guy who was 93 get his wife pregnant, so it can happen.

 

OMGWTFBBQ!?

 

maybe your not comfortable enough? Try foreplay first off and have alot of it to get you warmed up. Buy some sexy underwear and make yourself feel good and extra beautiful, take control of the situation and tell your guy exactly when you want it and how. Having control and making the descisions could help make you feel extra confident and attractive. Is your boyfriend romantic? maybe you just need him to romance you a little more to make you want it more which will then make the big "O" happen. Take a serious look at what turns you on. Watch some porn maybe? I know that sounds stupid but if your watching it you may figure out what makes you turned on the best. Get to know yourself and everyway to make you orgasm. If it takes 40 mins by yourself maybe you need to find a new way to turn yourself on more. I hope I helped!

 

30-45 minutes???

Ummmmmmmmmmmm that's a bit long just to get yourself off. I'd suggest finding out with yourself how you can shorten that time. How do you expect to tell a guy what to do for almost an hour every single time? That's just a bit odd I think. Try to find something that you can do to shorten the time it takes you to orgasm, then tell the guys to do that.

-Litos

 

1. relax
2. dont worry or think about orgasm.
3. take what you want from your man, dont wait for him to give it to you.
4. get on top and see if you cant break his pelvis in two.

 

I want to add, maybe try meditating to de-stress. Maybe your too stressed and thinking too much about orgasming?

 

thats a good piont. when i started makin love, sometimes id worry so much about performin that i couldnt always get it up. but if im just happy with havin fun, i can go for hours.

 

To achieve and orgasm you need to know how to spell orgasm. .... Like i said in my other post, its your fault... your not comfrtable with your body...... learn to focus and get fine with yourself.

 

You also need to learn how to spell comfortable. And the contraction for "you are" is you're not your. Besides that, you sound completely ignorant when you make comments like this.

To the original poster, you aren't taking antidepressants or any other drug which lowers sexual desires, are you? Do you honestly feel you've received good enough oral sex for a long enough time to have an orgasm (g-spot and clit stimulation)? Are you in a comfortable environment (not worrying about people hearing you, for example)?

If you really think your partners have tried hard enough, maybe you need to start thinking about sex and/or masturbate before to get yourself charged up? Others have had good suggestions....find something that really turns you on (roleplay, taking control, bondage, etc) and stick with it.

 

I think perhaps the problem is that you're only 18. I've dated women who didn't orgasm until they were 30.

Also bear in mind that the female reproductive system doesn't require an orgasm to reproduce, which kinda sucks. Or I suppose you could see it as an added bonus...

 

I am guessing it's just a matter of your partner making you feel uninhibited enough once someone puts restraints on how you're allowed to act how you're allowed to feel it makes it really almost impossible to have one.

 

Perhaps try new things, get kinky with it lol. There are lots of things to explore.

 

i have tried alot of different things...

somtimes I cant even get my self off... Or it takes longer then 40 min

 

I am on Zoloft...
i dont think i have ever really got stimulation from oral sex... and it usually only lasted about one min before the guy moved in for the "kill"...
i am usually in a comfortable environment...
thanks for the advise ...

 

You poor thing, I wouldn't be able to live.

 

Yes, I agree with those that say you must be relaxed and comfortable.
Also, taking anti-depressants won't help your libido, neither will the BC pill (it totally KILLED my sex drive).
Young women like ourselves have so much to learn about our bodies, and It's a fun little adventure as you go along. I was 18 when I had my first O (It was the first time a guy had ever gone down on me). I was with my first love and I found him to be extremely physically attractive (this is pretty important.. you must be very aroused).

And if you can't get your O with clitorial stimulation I'm willing to bet it's due to Zoloft.

Oh and DONT THINK.. JUST DO. RELAX !

Best of luck !