Hello all. 61 year old man here. I have been married for 42 years and I honestly do not know what to do. As most married couples, sex was GREAT when e we're first married. Now my wife (62) wants NOTHING to do with intimacy. She apologizes once in a while and says she knows I have needs. And I do this is true. I am not tooting my own horn here but I have have ALWAYS made sure her needs came before mine. She has told me to go take care of it myself which is what I usually do. She refuses counseling and says I need to give up on this sex thing as she calls it. Your thoughts would be appreciated.
So, a 62 yo woman has lost interest in sex. Any medical issues at play? Menopause, post menopause, gynecological cancers, prolapse? any issues in the marriage, like porn addiction, sexual energy spent outside the marriage, cheating? any history of domestic violence? You don’t say how long this state of affairs has been the norm.
What is the rest of your relationship like? Do you love her? Do you enjoy her company, despite the lack of sex? Do you support her financially--or vice versa? Do you have children, now presumably adults? Is divorce an option? I was highly flattered when my wife commented about how great our sex life is, but it's never been the centerpiece of the relationship. If your wife doesn't think joint counseling over this issue is important, do you feel comfortable seeking counseling or therapy on your own? Sounds like something that might be suitable for a CODA (Co-dependents anonymous) support group.
Yes coz it's the woman's forum. Quite strange though that my post explaining/highlighting that was also removed such that other men came along afterwards and posted. Doh!
