there is really no excuse to get married at 19. from what i've seen, about 90% of marriages at 19 are divorces at 20, if not sooner.
Gonna have to agree with sir above me.... You have to get married for the right reasons. Marriage is sacred and it’s suppose to be forever although that isn’t how things are nowadays but that’s life. I believe when u walk down that aisle you be sure you love that persona and that you will no matter what...through thick and thin you have to do it for the right reasons...not because there’s a kid involved and everything seems right. It has to be right and to raise a kid you don’t have to be together. Maybe you should stay engaged for a bit and see what happens. But I tell you one thing at 18 you should be worrying about what you’re gonna do for the rest of your life like school, and enjoying life and now that you have a daughter her future. Do what you feel is right nothing anyone here can tell you will change your mind if you’ve already decided to go down a path just a friendly advice. Good luck.
Marriage is difficult enough even when both parties have the deepest, undying love for each other. I think marriage would be a mistake in your case. Wait another year or two and if you still want to then, you'll be more sure.
No way..just cuz you have a baby together does not mean you have to marry the guy. Sounds like this is the 1950's. Get yourself independent and stable and don't depend on him . You have a year to figure it out..
The grass is always greener in the next field and few of us could not look back at how things could have been different if we had or had not married our partner. Having a child together and wanting to give her a future should be more important than worrying about the possibility that you could meet 'Mr Perfect' sometime down the line. In reality, he will probably have just as many potential flaws as your current partner. While I would never suggest marrying for the wrong reasons, reluctance in a happy relationship is every bit as stupid.
To dig deeper,why don't you think you love him? Sounds like he would have been just a one night stand if he didn't knock you up. This is coming from someone who has been in this situation . Side note,birth control is free at planned Parenthood if you are low income, so you should definitely be on that so you don't have another kid with him. Or has the sex dwindled since you're fighting now?
Well the child will have it better if he has a mom and dad in his life. So kudos to you for stepping up in that regard. But I'd say you really shouldn't marry him if that's the main reason. If he intends to be a good father, he will do so regardless of if you and he are married. If he doesn't intend to be, being married will just make 3 people miserable.
