Hello. I am 25 year old Male. So here is my issue. I have been watching from a long time, I guess may be since when I am 13 years old. I got so addicted to the pleasure, that I started masturbating 2-3 times a day (not on all days, say 100/365 days). Even on rest of the days I masturbate atleast once a day. There are days, I used spend hours watching porn, masturbating 5-6 times a day. Everytime I masturbate, the first time I end up spending some time rubbing and stroking the penis. But the next times mostly I end up cumming without even getting the dick hard (say in 30 sec - 1min). But spend hours watching porn (2-3 hours a day). So recently I had a fling with a girl from my college. We decided to have sex, but I was not able to perform. My penis which was hard during the foreplay, all of a sudden went a little softer (not hard enough) to penetrate. So we stopped and tried another day, this time the dick got hard but I ended up cumming in 30seconds. And my dick did not get hard for the next time even during foreplay. I told her I am going to use washroom, started watching porn to make sure that my dick gets hard. It did get hard, but again got softer during penetration. She is a good girl, told we can work it out together. Thought to ask you to see if there is any problem with me. Should I be consulting my doctor. Did watching porn ended up getting me in this situation. Every time I watch porn, my concentration would be get to climax and feel the pleasure. I like the pleasure so much. Did not conentrate about getting the dick hard or any other circunstances, just pleasure.
You'll probably be better off not watching porn and masturbating so much. I think there's some porn addiction recovery sites out there like no-fap or something.
I've heard about issues like this. Basically, you need to stop watching porn for like a month to restructure you're brain. Additionally, you could use a pill.
My advice: Get off the porn. You are desensitized. Give yourself a week break from masturbating. Porn can be good, but it has to be used in moderation. Your young, You don’t need it. If anything, learn to edge and prolong your sex play with your girlfriend.
Your brain is wired to the instant gratification of porn. It's as much an addiction as anything else. You need to break that cycle and stop watching porn - plus it puts the wrong idea into your head that sex is all like this - no, it's not. Put your brain into other things...like studying or your relationships. Take a few weeks for a cool down period. When you do masturbate, and everybody needs to, slow it way down, learn to use your brain and thoughts and concentrate on the sensations - from start to finish - it's not a race. Learn to edge and get good at it - that will let you enjoy it longer and will help you with controlling your urge to ejaculate quickly so you can last longer during sex. You can't expect to meet someone and just become experts with each other's bodies overnight. Unless you are used to it, it takes time to figure it all out.
You may also want to look at your masturbation technique. A lot of guys - me included - use a 'death grip'. Squeezing the little fella super hard while stroking. There is no vagina that can put you into a kung-fu death grip like that. So you come to expect those sensations which can't be reproduced. I have been trying some new things while masturbaing. Use plenty of lube, try the other hand, vary how much time it takes to get there. That has helped improve some of my situation. Maybe limit yourself to one a day. And, if it still bothers you, talk to your doctor. A professional can give you more suggestions. Don't wait for too long. You don't want this to be something you dwell on.
As I get older, I know that my ability to perform will not be what it used to be. So, if I'm somewhat certain that I'll be with someone in the near future, I'll skip the masturbation but will still enjoy the porn. Works for me!
is this the first time it has happened with a girl ...... maybe theres something going on about having sex with this girl ????
I think his problem is seeing girls as sex objects, rather than friends who he can develop a relationship with. He should just go out and enjoy some everyday activities with them, then let nature take it's course. Planning sexual activity before knowing a girl, would certainly turn me off big time.
