No interest from Wife

Hi all,

So me and my wife have been married 2 years nearly. We have been together for nearly 5. When we first got together, it was sex all the time, toys involved, even tried Anal once.. it was wonderful.

but in the last say 3 years, we have had sex maybe 1-2 times.. we have talked about it, but she just has no interest in sex, she will masterbate when she’s at home alone but with me, there is no level of intimacy what so ever. I’m starting to go crazy because I NEED to have sex, I want to have sex all the time.

 

Maybe you should go see a psychologist together / couples counseling.

 

Yeah this has come up in the past, but it’s seems she’s just not bothered about it.
I even considered going to a ‘massage’ place to release some tension and all that. I am not unfaithful so will never ever cheat.

 

Hows the relationship outside of sex? Are you friends? Do you go on dates? Do stuff together? Share any similar interests & hobbies?

If not, and she’s not into fixing the relationship, maybe it’s time to move on.

 

Outside of our sex life, we are the bestest of friends. We try to go on as many day outs etc together permitting time/days off.

I just want to have that loving side of things, I mean we both talk about having kids but that won’t happen if we continue like this..

 

If your wife willingly knows she is not interested then tbh you should be allowed to be open as far as I'm concerned. You can't just take the sex life off someone you're with unless you both don't like sex. That's kinda not even how humans are geared. So she needs to understand that and let you get your fix elsewhere.

 

Thank you, I am mid 20’s as well so right now my cock is pulsing and ready to go

 

I dont usually comment in these kind of threads but , You will wait thirty years for things to change then look back and think "where did my life go "

 

So go jerk off to some porn...

 

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exactly. And it's harsh and depressing world that one. Make the most out of your life, bud cause you only get one life. Enjoy it as much as you can. Be selfish. It's all about you. Fuck everyone else's feelings for sure. Everyone else's feelings gets in the way of your enjoyment, of your one lousy life. You should be able to nail as much pussy as you want.

 

I am exploring everything right now, porn has got to a point where I scroll and scroll but nothing takes a fancy. It’s not as simple as finding porn, it’s the intimacy, the love and feel of another person I crave..

 

Especially if they have kids... Kids never solve relationship issues, if anything it’s not fair to them to bring them into this world to grow up in a dysfunctional environment.

 

I get what you are saying, you are very right.

I just don’t want to destroy her feelings, make her feel horrible or useless.

 

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Oh I know, I 100% don’t want to bring children in the world for the hell of it.

 

I get that. But at the end of the day like Mally says, if this continues you're just going to be really upset, angry, frustrated and depressed when you get older.

I've had a blooming sex life and even when I turned 30 that grip of fear gets hold. I'm not going to be able to pull the cute younger girls forever. How long do I really have before I can't enjoy sex the way I enjoy sex now? I mean I'm only 32 but I've got some major back problems here I can't be tied down and restrained all my life, it hurts a bit now, that hurt also enduces tremendous pleasure so I'm not upset at the moment.

But yeah, you're young. Wait until you hit 30 and realised you fucked a girl a few times through your 20s while everyone else was out getting their numbers and experiences up.

 

Thank you for that. It’s true I have only been with 3-4 girls since I was 17 so I do need to experience the world.

We’ll see.

 

That's still probably not that bad of a number tbh.

But if you have any inclination that you want to have sex with others then tbh I think you have ground to stand on and if you stand on it firm enough she might see it from your perspective and you'll get your way or she doesn't and you leave her and start enjoying the life that you want.

It's 2020 bro, relationships are all fun these days. you can't confine our sexual nature and instincts.

 

I was thinking of trying some sort of herbal remedies to chill us both out, and we don’t rent or mortgage, we own our house.

 

She inherited, I earned. We both earn now anyway.

 

Yep. I probably agree.