Nice girls

Today, I went in the bistro at dinner time in my usual way, and went to a table and got a chair, and sat at a spare table and ate my dinner, and then I finished eating my sandwich and drinking my fizzy (pop) drink.

As soon as I finished, I picked up the chair and put it back where it was before, and as I walked along to put it back, one of the asian girls sitting down was accidentally caught, so I apologised and said sorry, but she didn't look too happy, and neither did I expect her to be.

As I eaten, there was a nice pretty blonde girl talking to a guy, and I felt so hurt and upset and wondered how the girl managed to pull her, and he wasn't exactly a lad that you'd class as a "hit with the ladies or what most girls/ladies would call a hunk" but he is so damn lucky being able to get talking to her - It really IS unbelievable!!!

When I went to the library (LRC) after my dinner, I was annoyed with myself, and thinking of the girl made me feel so bad inside and hurting, and I felt like trying to make myself cry to get some attention, and I just sat there, and just let tears run out my eyes, and I didn't weep or sob, but just let the tears run, and they weren't what you'd call proper tears, but they were wet and only faint.

I'm not an attention-seeker, but if you was in my position, you'd probably think of doing anything to get attention or something.

Note: I'm NOT writing this to seek attention, but just to express my feelings and get it off my chest.

 

Chris - I hope someday you find a girl to have a quality relationship with. It would help your self esteem so much. Right now you need it badly.

 

You're quite right, and i'd be over the moon if I had a nice girl that was really pretty and got along well with and had a great time with.

I get jealous when I see guys with pretty girls, or if a guy and a girl have done together.

 

You've got big problems Chris.

 

Yeah, tell me about them!!!

 

I think you have a mother fetish, but hey that's your fetish. Let your mom find your lady for you. I am sure she has friends with daughters or granddaughters, nieces or cousins they could fix you up with that would meet your mother's expectations. Or perhaps you are looking for a Brittany type clone.

Perhaps there's a reason what you consider "pretty girls" don't consider you worth looking at? It works both ways.

 

Well no, I don't need my mother to do it for me, and NO, I DON'T have a mother fetish!!!


Perhaps there's a reason what you consider "pretty girls" don't consider you worth looking at? It works both ways.[/QUOTE]Maybe, you're right, and I wouldn't say that i'm worth being looked at by a pretty girl (I don't want to limit myself to lower class girls though, and in an ideal world i'd want a nice girl, in terms of looks and her personality, and i'm sure that there are some out there), but the lad who the blonde girl was sat with on Tuesday wasn't exactly what girls would class as a "hunk", so that sort of tells me that there is a glimmer of hope somewhere, but I really do not know.

If I had the money, i'd consider plastic surgery, but just seeing them on TV, some of them tend to go wrong, and it puts you in agony with bandages, bruises and cuts all over you for weeks. I mean i've seen the shocking and distressing images of people having this sort of stuff done to their eyes on TV as well, and facelifts, where the skin from the face gets lifted up, and nose jobs etc.

Is it worth the agony though, and would you trust the surgeon or regret it afterwards?

I just don't know.

 

It has less to do with looks and more to do with valuing others for who they are and not what they look like. But you seem to be obsessed with looks. Even with plastic surgery who do you want to impress? Who are you going to make yourself look like?Women like men that like women and look at them directly and understand that they are people also. The fact that your target chose someone that you don't see as desirable or a hunk tells me that you don't understand human interaction. She was with someone she could relate with. Not a movie star...someone that saw her as a person.

 

The fact that you consider what you deem ugly girls as lower class...is something that needs to be addressed. You are "lower class". And I for one am glad they've written you off, because all you want is a trophy wife. You don't speak of love or attraction, you only measure by some off the wall the measurement you've already decided on. Too bad, because you've probably missed out on the love of your life.

 

Well this "love of my life" may not exist.

Also, i've looked at my body in the nude, and it isn't attractive really. I mean i've got stretch marks on my hips, and both sides of my bum, spots and moles on back, teenage spots on my face, and a thick purple stretch mark on the inside of my left leg, right under the groin area.

 

Stretch marks...have you had a baby? Most women don't even care...buit you seem to be focused on your appearance...strange. And stretch marks in males is rare if not impossible.

 

Gardener; Your fatherly advice brought to mind My friend Bruce.
Bruce was married young and divorced young, shit happens. As a guy and Bruce became your friend. You felt good you had such a good friend.
To look at Bruce you would see a ladies man, big bushy beard and somewhat of a beer gut. He had something that was a total turn on to the ladies. He truly loved women. No bullshit from him.
He didn't care what they looked like, how much money they had, he has good sense to not get involved with the crazy ones. Even after the passion wore down, the ladies were still good friends. ( sorry gals) but Bruce got more ass that a toilet seat.
Well in his late 50's he met miss right who became his Mrs. right.
I see a lot of young guys sticking both feet in their mouths when meeting a young lady. When " Hi I'm John, nice meeting you." will do nicely...
....................................Dennis.................

 

These two lines in tandem "He didn't care what they looked like" and "got more ass that a toilet seat" don't make a ladies man.

 

You need to seek the advice of a professional. Even if you think you do not need a psychologist you know you need a social coach. Go to counseling and use your therapist as somone who gives you advice in developing your social skills.

I bounced ideas off of mine all the time and it helped me a great deal in terms of socialization.

Also, if you act negativle you're bound to attract negative people. Think about it; if you had the choice wouldn't you rather spend time with somone upbeat? Everyone has their bad days but when those bad days are more frequent than good days it gets annoying. I've been on both ends (both being annoying and getting annoyed with others) and neither are fun or conducive to building my or other's hapiness.

 

The issue isn't your looks in getting to talk to girls, it is your self esteem. I have a similar issue.

 

Spooner:
That post was addressed " Gardener". Plus the quotes were not in tandem.
This is the Mens Forum, we can talk like that....
Why dont you go talk to the kid about "Wanking" in the mens room..........

 

exactly. you dont want a woman to be, well, herself. youw ant some plasticated barbie-ized version of a woman whos beautiful but doesnt laugh at things, doesnt fart or burp or do any other bodily functions (hello w e fuckign bleed from our crotches every month for days on end), doesnt talk about her sex life blah blah blah blah. what you want probably doesnt exist and even if she did, it sdoubtful shed look twice at someone who just wants a trophy and not someone to love and care about and respect

 

Get yourself a blog. Write a private journal. The fact that you put it out on a forum like this, time after time, with zero positive response means you're looking for a reaction of some sort.

 

NO, I haven't had a baby!!!


Well seeing stretch marks in males is unusual and like you say rare, and it's so worrying.

I mean 3 years ago, I had stretch marks on my back, but they've faded now. The stretch marks on the sides of my legs and hips were vibrant like 6 years ago when i was 12, but they've faded as well.

I mean what is happening to me?


There are times every now and then were i'd wake up in the morning, and if I lay on my side, or whatever, the stretch marks on my hips would sort of hurt, almost as skin was tearing or something.

I don't know if this is part of me growing up, and the stretch marks were far worse and more noticeable at least a few years ago.

 

Not if you're fat. I have stretch marks on my belly.