I have a partner and we argue about a lot of things. Im new to this lesbian world and there are a lot of things that I dont know. 1.) IS IT A BIG DEAL THAT IM A NEW BORN AND USED TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND? 2.) HOW TO PROVE THAT YOURE LOYAL TO YOUR PARTNER? post your situations here. Tnx!
If your partner has been gay all her life then there's the possibility she could resent that. Some gay girls mightn't give in to the idea of a "born again" nor do they want a companionship with any women that has been tainted by males. What exactly are you arguing about?
It took me a long time to feel physically attracted to bi girls or women that have crossed over. My partner however won't even give them a chance. I think it's a mindset thing like my partner obviously knew she was gay from the get go and would feel much more comfortable being with a companion that was always gay also and wouldn't feel the same way with a girl who all of a sudden decided she was attracted to females or switched sides because she think men are bastards.
Most relationships thrive/survive on mutual trust, mutual love, regardless of the sexual mix of the couple. What you are describing could easily be a classic hetero or male gay dynamic. Communication is always the best cure - and if not ......
It's an odd thing for sure, some girls are strangely anti bisexual girls even to the point of denying that there is such a thing. As we don't know what you are arguing about, I can't really help you out there except to say communication is key, as for trust, why does she not trust you ?
My partner has been with guys and girls where as me just girls. That doesn't bother me about her because you can't be mad about what someone did or who they were with before you. Because I trust her and we are very open with one another that thought doesn't make me feel threatened or uncomfortable. Ultimately it's something she needs to become comfortable with and probably needs a little reassurance from you that you love her and want her. Earning someones trust is just that. Something that you have to earn. Whatever makes her feel that she can't trust you, just work on that area. For example. if you were meeting up with a guy or person that makes her feel uncomfortable. Be open with her about it and maybe send her a text or two while you're with him telling her how you feel about her. So that she knows you're thinking about her. That kind of thing really. So yeah, in my mind, it doesn't matter if you're a 'new born' or not. It's all about the connection and to show someone you're loyal. Be loyal, show your support and allegiance to her. x
She doesnt trust me because she thinks that I still want guys because I use to be with guys. Thanks for your wonderful replies guys.
Tell her to shut the hell up. So what you've been with men. Ur not now. You can't change the past. Tell her to grow up and get a real problem. Tell her she reminds you of your ex boyfriend he was always so insecure about your being with women and he complained just like she does and watch how she shuts the hell up about it.
I can understand how your partner feels because i was once like her as my gf is a bisexual. We had a very serious talk and now we are very good. you girls need a SERIOUS TALK. let her know how much she meant to you. In my case, i didn't mistrust my gf, I was just feeling annoyed as many guys go after her and she has a lot of male friends that wanted her so much. I was a little forceful towards her in the past, after the talk I have changed and we are now very in love. I hope you don't give up, give your partner more confident! If she doesn't love you, she wouldn't care about it. Start is always the hardest part, as long as you don't give up her (like my gf didn't give me up).
What Tash Cain said. It's probably about insecurity, but she's your partner so try and help the situation instead of blaming her. Give her the reassurance she needs and hopefully with time she'll get over your past.
If your girlfriend resents the fact that you've been with men before enough to have a problem with it, then you really need to talk to her and straighten all of this out. You're bisexual. You've been with men. You can't change that. But you're with her now, and if she can't accept you for who you are, then it's her loss. I'm bisexual, and when my partner and I were just starting out, I tried to convince her that I wasn't attracted to men anymore. She's not bisexual, so I figured that she'd have a problem with that. She didn't. She did have a problem with me thinking that I had to be in the closet about my sexual orientation to be with her, though. She loves me for who I am, and the fact that I occasionally look at guys is a complete non-issue with her. That's the issue here. You shouldn't be in the closet from your girlfriend. She needs to accept you for who and what you are or were.
