New mommy needs comfort

Discussion in 'Parenting' started by Jonsey_Babe, Aug 23, 2005.

  1. Jonsey_Babe

    Jonsey_Babe Member

    Hey everyone in the real world~ Well it is time for me to actually grow and and take on real responsobility........I am going to be a Mother....I am extremly excited yet terrified at the same time. I'm not scared of taking care of my child because I have many, many years of Daycare experience to go around. I'm scared because I am high risk because I have had cancer and because my old man is in jail. Keeping the STRESS level down is hard...I just need some advice and some comfort of people telling me it's gonna be okay because it has only begun and it has been the most emotional battle I have ever endured.. Thank you all
    Love Jenna
     
  2. wiggy

    wiggy Bitch

    aww u poor hunny, how far along are you?

    having a baby can be the best thing in the world, yeah sure its stressful but amazing at the same time. the best things you can do which i think you know are . . . . . . try not to get stressed, if you are still in contact with the father send him letters, wait for his phone calls. im sure everything will work out just fine. where about do u live?

    maybe see if theres support groups and things in your area.

    but anyway im sure everything will work out x x x keep us posted on what happens
     
  3. Ranger

    Ranger Hip Forums Supporter HipForums Supporter

    Reading your post three things come to mind.... 1... B vitamins are good for controling stress.
    2... The same goes for exercise and I see in your profile that you enjoy running, keep it up in moderation. Many women atheletes pursue their sports into their 7/8th months...
    3... :)HHUGS:)
     
  4. Sage-Phoenix

    Sage-Phoenix Imagine

    *hugs*

    I'm sure everything will work out just fine.

    Totally ditto wiggy :)
     
  5. Kastenfrosch

    Kastenfrosch Blaubeerkuchen!! Lifetime Supporter

    *big hugs* to you from me :) and lots of sunshine. And please don't worry too much, as worrying only makes things worse. Look forward to what's comming, and chances are that all will be good, if you keep a good spirit.

    I will send to a lot of good vibes!
     
  6. wiggy

    wiggy Bitch

    im sure by tomorrow more people would have seen this thread and will add more to it, more support
     
  7. FallenFairy

    FallenFairy Senior Member

    things seem real shitty right now but i know everything will be fine. your boyfriend( im guessing) will be out of jail in no time as long as he didnt do any serious shit. try to do things that help you to relax take a hot bath, meditate, yoga, run, whatever trips your trigger.
     
  8. HippyFreek2004

    HippyFreek2004 changed screen name

    (((((Hugs)))))

    Definitely confide in someone, be it your mother or best friend...Just talk it out with someone that can really hug you and tell you everything is okay.
     
  9. solaray

    solaray hipmama

    hey--one thing that i remember that helped me with my first pregnancy when i was going thru some MAJOR emotional upheavals was the midwives telling me (and other info i was reading in books) that the baby was tied to me emotionally and could feel everything i was feeling so that helped me realize i was a mommy already--not in a pressuring kind of way but in a way that made my nurturing instincts take over above everything else. my concern became only for the well-being for that baby in that moment--every moment as it was happening and not worrying about the future. but also, and i don't mean to be preaching AT ALL--only sharing!, not to worry about what i was doing right or wrong, just try to deal with life the best i could moment to moment and give the rest up to the Great One or the Universe or Spirit or what-have-you. on my third pregnancy i was feeling apprehensive and guilty for bringing another baby into the world without an ideal family situation and my very wise friend told me not to waste my time feeling these bad feelings, that my son's spirit had chosen to be born unto me as it's mother for a reason--to learn what it he needs to learn on his life path. i was very thankful for that advice as it brought me much relief and comfort because i really believe it to be true but had given in to focusing on my worries and doubts. there is really no need to worry--concern and effort are valuable, while worry and stress are not. release all that worrying and have faith!!! you are in good hands!!! blessings to you and CONGRATULATIONS!! welcome to mommyhood--it is a wonderful wild ride!! ;-)
     
  10. annabegins

    annabegins Member

    I had high stress during my pregnancy, i have anxiety disorder and couldnt take my meds anymore because of the baby. I also didnt have the baby's father in the picture. What really helped me was walks at night (i live in a safe subdivision) and lavender bubble baths, listening to new age music, buying baby clothes, and taking up something peaceful to consume time like crocheting. I made a blanket for my son, and one for myself. It really relaxed me. But the most relaxing was the lavender bubble baths. Light some candles and play some new age music, and close your eyes and think of how great it will be bring a new life into the world.
     
  11. Jonsey_Babe

    Jonsey_Babe Member

    I am 6 weeks and terrified
     
  12. wiggy

    wiggy Bitch

    aww im sure it will be ok, things will be bad for a while but you have to think of your baby as well now. stress isnt good for anyone at all - let alone someone who is pregnant. its going to be horrible but try and stay calm, do you have family or friends around you at all?
     
  13. I am almost 7 weeks and have had brief moments of extreme worry but what everyone on here is saying is right. Being terriifed is probably normal but it's not good for you or the baby. What helps me everyday is doing this tape called "Zen Mama Yoga". It's really helpful with making me stay calm and raising my energy levels at the same time, and for staying positive that everything will be all right! Baths, massage, and long walks are really helpful. Also, try keeping a journal.
     
  14. enigma_rising

    enigma_rising Member

    congratulations hunny. :):):) my little one is 10 months now and its all flown by, seems like it takes forever to get them grown and born and the first 6 weeks after the birth are tough, but its one of the most precious times you will ever have, even if at the time you feel like crap. i did, but i feel so blessed to have experienced it. there are so mamy mamas here with tonnes of experience so if your worried about anything just post and you will find sooooo much knowledge and support. if you want to PM me id be glad to chat...i was 19 when i fell for Eden, us younger mums should stick together, lol (but hey, all you older mums are pretty cool too, lol)

    peace to you honey.xxx
     

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