Heya, I've heard some guys talk about the same problem. Being able to last longer can be an advantage, but not being able to climax sounds rough. There are a couple things that could be leading to the problem, one is if you masturbate to frequnently it can lead to decreased sensitivity, and if you were to masturbate less, it would increse your pleasure. Another thing, are you using condoms...? Its hard for me to feel anything through them, so what I do is buy the trojan Ultra-sensitives, and that makes the whole experience a lot more pleasurable. The other thing I can think of is performance anxiety. if you were new to sex, or with a certain girl for the first time, you could be too apprehensive to have a good time. maybe you could try taking your time and just kissing and embracing a while before you have sex, and that might make you less anxious. Hope that helps
This sounds more mental than physical. More women than men have this problem. I dont know what to do for this sorry man...
A boyfriend of mine had the same, he was horny as hell but his erection didn't last for long.. with him it turned out to be a completely mental-thing.. he needed a 'safe' environment (his own room) and some music .. hehe.. whatever it takes I guess. I doubt that with you it has something to do with the penis itself, if you're able to orgasm when alone. If you want to be 100% sure let a doctor check you out. The other thing might be some soulsearching? Or just relaxing.. (hey.. you're not gay right? ).. kidddding.. Seriously.. if you feel attracted to girls and get horny but can get off near them but you can while alone.. then it's mental.. give yourself some time, try to find out what èxactly makes the difference between both situations (alone or company) and deal with it.. don't give up hope! Good luck *hug*! btw: that guy was 24, so it isn't an age thing, mostly an experience and selfknowledge thing I guess..
I still say its mental, a guy who is paralised from the waist down can still get a hard on and orgasim, its all a mental thing. Good luck wit it though, hope ya find something that works
you should just find something that really turns you on that you and your girlfriend can do... also try kissing slowly at the saem time as shes jerking you or your having sex etc...sounds simple but it makes all the difference
I have the same problem as you. I've never had an orgasm with a woman. I got half way to solving the problem... I realised that when I masturbate I always put my thumb under my balls (no idea why). So I wondered if this was the key to me not being able to orgasm. So the next time I had sex I got my girlfriend to cup my balls while we did it — and it felt a lot more like I was getting closer to cumming. But sadly I still didn't get there. The only time she made me cum was when we had phone sex! Don't know what the problem is. I've never had a wet dream, either.
