Hello all. I am newly remarried and both my husband and I have children from our previous marriages that live with us. Mine are with us full time and his only part time. Our children range in age from 5 to 18. My children are accustomed to seeing me nude and being nude themselves pretty much any time they are home. My husband happens to love this and enjoys home nudism as well. The problem is with his older children who have not been raised this way. They are uncomfortable and are mostly clothed at all times. They do not seem to mind my kids being nude as they are little but us being nude is something that makes them uncomfortable so I have cut down on it while they are home, which makes me uncomfortable. My husband has gotten some erections around my children and they seem not to care but I think it may bother him a little as he feels like he's judged especially if they were to tell their dad when they go to visit or when his children mention it to their mother. More of just venting but also wondering if anyone else has gone through this and has any tips for helping everyone feel more comfortable?
I was recently talking about a somewhat similar topic with a very experienced and resourceful nudist. Basically what he and I both agree on is that this type of thing must be carefully discussed and agreed upon by all parties involved from the get-go. By "older children", I assume they are in their teens. As this knowledgeable nudist fellow have said during our conversation, introducing children who are going through puberty to nudism can be extremely challenging. And I tend to agree with him. It's not impossible but very very difficult to change their perception of nudity by that point, for they've already been on the receiving end of the societal "norm", if you will. I'm a bit surprised that you have gone so far as to marrying this man knowing he has children who might not be comfortable with the nudist lifestyle. This kind of thing must be discussed in depth. But since you've already married him, the only advice I can offer is: baby steps! Your husband's kids will naturally have some sort of issues with witnessing their father's erection. Hey, I don't see anything wrong with erections per se, but for a child to be able to perceive them as natural, that child must first be educated that erections are natural, first and foremost. Children who have been reared in a non-nudist/clothing-optional environment would most likely only associate with erections with something "naughty/dirty/bad" due to the mainstream fear-based belief in regards to sex and sexuality. For them to unlearn what they have learned and have already gotten accustomed to may take a really long time, hence, BABY STEPS. All the best.
Thanks for the feedback. Of course we discussed all of this while we dated. It's not much of a change for my home as we had done it all along. It was adding him basically. His kids are not with us as often so clothing is not a big deal during those times. I am not in any way trying to integrate teenagers into something they'e not comfortable with. It was not a criteria for me to find a practicing nudist to date, there are not many in our area who do.
