a loooong time best guy friend and i recently became more-than-friends. as soon as we first hooked up, it all went really fast. he went down on me and i gave him head that first night. i haven't been anywhere close to as far as that before, so i'm a little curious about a few things first of all, to what extent am i supposed to be shaved or whatever down there? also, is it normal for him to finish himself off when i give him head? he says that it's really good, but i feel like i'm doing something wrong because i can't get him off myself. i'd also really appreciate any other advice from guys/girls! i'd love to please him in any way
You can have whatever you want down there. Even if it's a small reptile. If it's the first time you gave head, it probably wasn't that good. But it's okay. It tells him you're not a ho and he can mold you and show you the head-giving ropes. That's usually totally cool with guys, because you have no preconcieved notion of what feels good.
Sometimes it's better to finish yourself off. It's important to ask him what feels good and what he likes. I don't know about the shaving thing. All comes down to your preference.
i feel like guys expect them to be totally shaved... but frankly, you should keep it however you like it. i have a landing strip, but that's because i think it's sexy. do some research on the internet and look at some different styles and see what you like. yeah, that's probably true. don't worry. he'll tell you what to do. don't be afraid to ask. but no teeth grating... he isn't a piece of cheese... and don't just sit there licking it, they need some pressure... and lastly, don't forget about the large 'o' sack o' balls...
supposed? there are no rules as to how you keep yourself groomed down there. it is up to you. If you want to fro it out with a pick every morning and dye it blue that is your business. It is your body, not his. If you are interested on pleasing him, though, just ask him how he likes it. different guys have different taste. as for giving head, you will get better at it as time goes on, and learn what little things HE likes. I would suggest wetting your hand and using it like an extesion to your mouth. it feels great to him, and help keep you from choking if you aren't very steady. also, allow him to grab your hair and guide your head the next time you give him head. that will get you used to the rhythm he likes, so that you can duplicate it. watching blowjob porn helps too. have fun he'll get more pleasure out of it if he knows you are enjoying yourself too.
Noone can masturbate himself or herself better than himself or herself. No matter how much instruction you give, the brain is wired to the clitoris or the penis, and will respond best to that.
no one can tell you how to groom yourself, but i think -most- people at least like it neatly trimmed, even if its not cut short. there are lots of ways people do it....some girls go for the totally bald look, some shave only the actual genital area and trim what lies above, some shave almost everything and leave a vertical strip, some leave hair all over but trim it to varying lengths, and some just let it grow out in the natural bushy look....nothing is right or wrong, so long as you maintain good hygeine. however i will state that from what i understand (and from personal experience) both genders tend to be more sensitive to sexual stimulation depending on how little hair they have getting in the way. thats not to say the pleasure dissapears if you let it grow out (far from it, in fact!) only that it tends to be more sensitive when you keep it shorter or shaved. every guy has his own personal preference as to how his girl takes care of her pubic hair...some guys prefer all natural and bushy, some like it completely shaven, but most are happy with just neatly trimmed. if you don't care so much yourself and simply want to make it more appealing to him, try asking him what his preference is. if you arent sure what YOU want, or if you simply want to surprise him with it next time you get lucky, the internet is a vast and endless resource when it comes to pornography and tasteful nude portraits. just look around a little and you'll see there are all different styles that girls choose.... personally, i think it depends on the person. some girls look GREAT with nothing there, and with some girls a little hair can be super hot, and with some i really dont care that much, so long as its at least trimmed a little (i dont personally care for wild and unruly) in the opinion of many males, though, the cleaner cut it is, the more likely they'll want their tongues on it, fwiw. as for your skills, don't worry too much about it, but remember practice makes perfect and it ISNT always good. personally i get off too fast sometimes when having normal intercourse, but with oral sex i can last a lot longer, and i've actually had a girl stop because it took a while and her jaw was getting sore...and i've had that same problem on occasion if my girl was taking her sweet time to reach climax (though i don't stop unless it takes waaaaaay too long....after about 45 minutes i just wouldn't be able to persevere!) seeing as you're 18, you may want to consider spending a few bucks to invest in a nice sex toy for yourself. with a dildo or vibrator (vibrators of course are more popular because they can increase clitoral stimulation and provide more pleasure than a dildo) you can first of all please yourself when your partner isnt there. if you get a life sized and roughly phallic toy like most medium sized vibrators, then if you're dedicated to giving good head you can even practice when your partner isnt there for the real thing. oral sex is like athleticism of small muscles around the mouth...the tongue and jaw muscles are worked differently with oral sex than with everyday activities, and they need to get "in shape" to be able to do it really well. being able to practice should help you improve. having a vibrator can also give you another way for you and your partner to safely engage in different sexual activity without the risk of pregnancy (obviously) and let me tell you, most guys like to either help or watch their girl use a vibrator! maybe give him a show, or have him use it on you. finally, there are a number of tutorials on the internet about how to give good oral sex (for either gender) and some have some really good tips, techniques, and advice. do your best to both educate yourself and practice, and you should be able to improve quite quickly. dont give up, and eventually you'll be able to get it so he's not even thinking about anything else, not wanting to finish himself off...in my opinion, theres nothing better than a girl who can give amazing head and just keep going until she lets me cum in her mouth..... (ps - everyones different and various guys enjoy various styles of lovemaking and oral sex and so on....some guys i know prefer their lover to focus on the glans, or the head/tip of the penis, whereas personally i'm of the opinion that the best is motion and penetration, and would give anything for a girl who will take everything i've got to give...for me, i know its something special if i can feel her nose bump into me communicate with your lover, find out what he wants, what turns him on, and what feels good to him...communication is key!)
