Hi everyone, my name is David and I'm...confused. I'm sure you get this kind of opening a lot, but its simple and right to the point. Like I said, my name is David, I'm 20 years old and up until now, I've been a securely straight man, but I've been having a series of confusing instances. Most recently, I went out to get something to eat and have a drink or two. I was sitting there, waiting on my food and just kind of...zoning. Then a friend of mine walked in (who I previously knew was gay) and stopped to say hi. One thing led to another and he ended up joining me for supper and drinks. We had a nice dinner and some sensational conversation (I didn't realize it at the time, but I was really into him. He made me laugh and I was smiling the entire time). We unintentionally parked very close to each other and ended up walking back to the parking lot together. We continued the conversation at my truck, (after running through it in my head, over analyzing like I do) both leaning into each other and just generally flirting. I eventually had to leave as it was getting late and as I went to give him a hug, he kissed me. After a second, we broke apart and and he had a kind of "oh my god" look on his face. Up until that point, he had known me as a steadfast straight arrow. I was just...confused. I'd enjoyed it. I didn't think that I was kissing another man, but that I was having an amazingly intimate moment with another attractive person. He kept apologizing and I kept telling him not to worry about it, and we eventually left awkwardly and went home. So, I'm not entirely sure how to react. What would you suggest I do from here? Any advice or reactions would be great.
I'd simply relax. You have had a spontaneous, nice dinner conversation garnished with some serious flirting. A kiss and a hug ended the night. You are finding this dude attractive. If you want to get sexual, give it a try. If you don't, stay just friends. A number of perfectly str8 dudes go through similar experiences in their late teens and early 20's or even later. Genuinely str8 dudes stay who they are. Genuinely bi dudes stay who they are, and surprisingly, some dudes even discover that they are genuinely gay. Whatever the case may be, I'd always give it a try on the conditioned that no one gets hurt. KD
You know, when I'm with my gay buddies, and we part ways for the night, it's pretty common for gay guys to give a hug and even a quick peck on the cheek or even lips. They don't think anything of it, and when your friend did this he simply wasn't thinking. As soon as he did it, he was like "Opps" and appologized. I would think nothing of it at all.
If you enjoyed the kiss and are now questioning yourself maybe you are bi-sexual, and are just discovering this about yourself.
If you had been straight as 'an arrow' you wouldn't have had any 'confusing instances' and a kiss from another guy wouldn't throw you off balance. the situation is simple, really. You have a shot at your friend. The thing you're confused about is whether to take it or not. And I can't tell you which you should do. It's your decision. The only thing I advise you to do is act according to what you want to do. Follow what your body tells you is right. Not what the outside influence, opinions, etc have to say about it. They don't matter. The only thing that matters is what you want. And if you think about it a little, i'm sure you'll know what that is.