So I started seeing this guy. Bottom line is; the sex was insanely amazing! 10 hours of amazing sex, and now I cant stop thinking about him. I dont know what to do. I know its not alot of info. Also, it wasnt just the sex, it was the fact that Ive never felt THAT comfortable or at home with someone. When we hang out, everything and everyone just disappear. He keeps telling me I need to chill. But I REALLLY like him, so its hard to chill. I need advice ASAP LOL So, I was just curious to know if any other women, or men, fall in love because of sex.
yes,, good sex plays a role in love, but if there isnt friendship and common interest it will probably sour..
^ Agreed. Chances are high he is very attracted to you, I know I wouldn't be able to go for a sex marathon like that if I didn't find who I was sexing very sexy so my gut tells me he probably likes you. But if he is telling you to chill you should take his advice, let it all fall into place over time
just me...but i wouldnt and didnt want a girl for my girlfriend if she agreed to have a 10 hour sex marathon before we were actually ''involved'' i wouldnt want a girl for my girlfriend if she even blew me before or had a 2 minute sex marathon before we were an item tsk tsk...you've lost him...otherwise no way you woulda been told to chill
yes. I knew a guy who married a black woman (a no-no in those days) simply because she was the best fuck he'd ever had. the marriage seemed to be successful too. however I also know a woman who was so sex-mad for a guy she let the rest of her responsibilities go (like her married life with kids) and fucked up in a big way. so basically, speaking as a crusty old fart, what's happened to you is that your body has woken up to Carnality. it's probable you and your man friend are Earth signs. I know this because my Pisces wife fell for a Scorpio man and they would fuck lustilly for much longer and with more variety than my wife and I did. we didn't break up because my wife believes that it's not infidelity if hubby watches! beware tho' carnality is not 'love'. all the same it's easy to imagine it IS love as long as the fucking goes well. and there's nothing wrong with that. go for it young woman!
Thank you all for your advice. I really appreciate it. Not sure where this is gonna go but I'm hoping we become a couple. I know that sex is not love, I'm very aware but I feel that if the sex is that good then there's only good things to come. Though the sex definitely changed me. It was not planned either. It just happened that we clicked sexually. Is all. And yes Endnow, I will def let things fall where they fall. If it happens that we don't get together at least I got something out of it and thank you irresponsible hermit for your advice as well. You're a funny one as well haha
Yes believe it or not. 10 hours. Obviously a break in between. I'm still shocked lol I'm used to an hr or 2 at most. But we just clicked and enjoyed each other.
No doubt about it that women will fall in love because of sex. You see it all the time. No matter how great the sex is, a girl could never have me fall head over heals because of that. But on the contrary, if a guy bangs it out like no one's ever done it to her before, then it's usually a wrap. That's why I've actually turned down certain girls advances because I knew if I had fucked them that I'd never be able to get rid of them (that sounds bad, but hopefully you get the point).
That's debatable. I think it can lead to some hot fling relationships, but to say that it's gonna be a success, meaning a good long term relationship that might be marriage material is debatable. But I will say sex alone might lead to some really hot short-term, and emotionally unhealthy attachments, either from her, you, or both.
Woah, I never said anything about a successful relationship. One partner falling hard for the other doesn't necessarily strengthen a relationship. In fact, the other party may not want anything serious from them at all.
Hmm maybe this is just a personal definition difference. To me when someone says they are in LOVE with someone in a romantic context, I interpret it as a mutual thing. If its one sided its not love, its a crush or a one-sided sexual relationship fueled by lust.
Well not everyone develops feelings at the same time/rate. It's not uncommon that one partner will fall in love before the other.
Eh true. I think we're both right, it's just we have a different way of looking at the concept of love and attraction at a detailed level. It should also be said that sometimes an individual stops crushing on someone, right when there ex-crush begins to have a crush on them. It's like they can never synchronize their affection for each other so it becomes mutual. Because of this scenario I differentiate the two.
Sounds like a good start to a possible relationship. At least you guys know that your are sexually compatible. I would say just relax and see where it takes you.