Nervous for first swap

So my wife and I have been playing in the lifestyle for the last 4-5 months. It has all been at swing clubs and always MFM threesomes. Later this week we are going to have our first full swap, same room, with a couple we found online. We met them and had a great evening talking at a bar and we all decided to go to the next step and play. This might sound really crazy but I am more nervous about this than any of the situations we have been into so far. I can't help but wonder if this is how my wife felt the first night with another guy. This will be my first time with a woman other than my wife in 30 years. That is a little intimidating. It is also a little different knowing I will be focusing on another woman while she is with a guy. I am use to both of us focusing on her.

I have tried to think through how things might go but don't really even know how the evening progresses for us to end up in bed. We have always played at clubs in the past. This will be the first time away from the club. Any thoughts, suggestions, etc. would be appreciated.

 

Man, don't really know what to tell you, on the hand it seems very exciting, but on the other it could go badly but whatever you decide or do keep us updated, sorry this wasn't more help

 

Well have you done this yet or is it still in the planning stages

 

Dc, look at it this way. Your wife is going to be watching you as you play with the other wife. Her husband is going to be watching her as he plays with your wife. You and your partner are going to be watching them too. All this is dependent on all four of you in the same bed together. As soon as it gets going it will be no different than if you were in the club setting watching your wife fuck another man except you will have his wife to take care of instead of yours. As it progresses don't be surprised if you end up buried in your wife before its all over. Most importantly don't overthink this. Sit back and let the women take the lead. Once they're ready you'll be having sex with the other wife. Who knows, you may not even make it to the bedroom.

 

I appreciate the advise. Thursday is the night so I will post a reply and let everyone know how it goes.

 

Have something to drink before they arrive to calm your nerves
And maybe a cialis/viagra to make sure your nerves don't kill your erection

 

Along with that look into using CBD oil to ease any anxiety. A good quality oil does wonders 30 minutes before the sex begins. Be sure it's a full spectrum oil. You can opt for a tincture, balm, capsule, or even a cbd infused massage oil. It's also non addictive and there is no hangover like alcohol can cause.

 

Thursday is date night. We are meeting the couple we have been talking to then for our "play" date.

 

So how it go, did it happen?

 

So it didn't happen last night. The couple we were meeting had a family member rushed to the hospital. We are rescheduling. Disappointed but still excited for the first experience.

 

That's to bad, sorry to hear they had to cancel but it's great that you have another date set, keep us updated

 

I would say that there is less pressure with a full swap. Treat it like a date. Go out and have dinner or see a movie. We prefer to rent a hotel room with two queen beds. Mainly because if anyone wants to back out, it isn’t awkward for anybody and afterwards there isn’t any cleanup and everyone can be on their own way (get dressed, hugs, thank you’s, more hugs and bye). Only close friends get to “cum” in our house. Have a few drinks and get to know each other. Then go back to the hotel room, turn the lights out and let things happen naturally. Unless you are really into watching other people have sex, you’ll be focused on the one your with. I’ve the kissing starts and sounds are being made, every one in the room will be too horny to care. Four in one bed is a big step for most couples. Just swap husbands for the first time and don’t over think it. Save the lights on human centipede position for round two.

 

I would say that there is less pressure with a full swap. Treat it like a date. Go out and have dinner or see a movie. We prefer to rent a hotel room with two queen beds. Mainly because if anyone wants to back out, it isn’t awkward for anybody and afterwards there isn’t any cleanup and everyone can be on their own way (get dressed, hugs, thank you’s, more hugs and bye). Only close friends get to “cum” in our house. Have a few drinks and get to know each other. Then go back to the hotel room, turn the lights out and let things happen naturally. Unless you are really into watching other people have sex, you’ll be focused on the one your with. I’ve the kissing starts and sounds are being made, every one in the room will be too horny to care. Four in one bed is a big step for most couples. Just swap husbands for the first time and don’t over think it. Save the lights on human centipede position for round two.

 

So when is the big day

 

Looks like we are on for tomorrow. Fingers crossed

 

Awesome, keep us updated

 

You should tell them it's your first time. If they are experienced, they should help you along. Never rush into anything. If you rush into something it's not going to be enjoyable. for either party.

 

Thanks for the advise. They are aware and are taking things slow with us.

 

Well, did it happen, if so was great?

 

It was. We met at the club and had some drinks. We then all went into a room and got undressed. That was a little weird to begin with but we quickly got over that. Very quickly he was kissing my wife and I was kissing his girlfriend. It didn't take long for that to ramp up to both of us going down on each others woman. It was really hot. It is easy to get lost in what you are doing. Afterwards my wife and I talked about it and I didn't realize that they both watched me for several minutes fucking his girlfriend doggie style. My wife really liked it and found it to be very hot. We had a good time with them and are going to get together again in the near future.