Need some serious advice please!!!! Idk what to do here

Ok so i just found out earlyer this week that the girl who ive been talking to for the longest time and who i was in love with and she said she was in love with me had sex with this guy who ive had beef with since like 1st grade and she knows i hate him but she did it anyway. Shes apologized a million times and swears she wishes she could take it back and says she didnt mean to hurt me. And the problem is i love her so much that i cant help but want to forgive her but then on the other hand all my friends say i shouldnt even talk to her after that. She wants to hangout tomarrow but i need some advice what would you all do in my situation. Would you forgive her?

 

Second chances are usually good, but that is really shitty that she did that to you.
Hang out with her tomorrow, and talk to her and ask her why she did it, and if you think it's a legit reason, and you think you can forgive her and trust her not to do it again, then continue the relationship.

good luck!

 

are you really 32?

 

lol no im 16

 

thats whats so fucked up is she said she doesnt have a reason she said she doesnt know why she did it and wishes she never did. I mean i believe her thats shes really sorry but i dont know if im ready to forgive her

 

don't bow down to pussy power, be a man, dump that bitch and have sex with her best friend

 

16? fuck that bitch then... life goes on and you're gonna run into a lot of dumb whores in life..

 

dude fuck her, thats not even cool if she cheated on you, no matter who it was with, and it wasnt even with your friend, if it was someone who you hate then thats worse i guess

 

sock that bitch to the curb then whoop that dudes ass. only solution there is, also do what teh-horace said

 

Are you actually going out with her or just "talking"

Because if your not going out with her she didnt do anything wrong.

 

well shit, i would not talk to her for awhile then..
give her time to realize that you might not come back to her, and let her realize that she fucked up big time.

then when she realizes she fucked up, you can give her a second chance if you're ready.

 

you need to tell her that you don't know if you can trust her. give her a chance, but follow the rule: fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

if she fucks you over again, end it. thats a crappy thing to do to someone.

 

ah teenage angst.

 

Do whatever you FEEL is right. Get high, your feelings are more intense and are easy to recognize. Just follow your feelings.

I'm baked!

 

hmn if shes saying she doesnt know why she did it, then you shoudlnt trust her just yet, because unless shes incredibly stupid, shes up to something.

yea i would just wait, see if she tries to fix things. if she just says sorry and just expects you to see her and treat her like nothing happened... screw her.

but yeah, if you see some attempt to fix things, second chance ftw, just watch out, remember she hurt you once and can do so again at anytime, so untill you trust her again, be cautious.

 

but make sure you're not TOO cautious, meaning, way to over-protective and questioning her every action and things like that. my ex boyfriend acted like that after i cheated on him once, and it didn't help the situation at all.

 

thats not what i mean :s.

i was trying to say as in, hope for the best, be prepared for the worst.
dont lay a blind eye, you know what shes capable of so just watch out.

i still dont get how the fuck people can sleep with each other and not know why...

 

sorry i misunderstood!! lol

but i agree with you now that i know what you mean.

 

i'd be more pissed about the fact that she admitted to it. if you guys were fine until that happened, why did she tell you? she had no reason to and all it did was fuck your relationship up. it's one thing to lie about it if you were to ask, but to just flat out say it? and idk if i'd forgive her...i'd prob hit it one more time and then leave her

 

maybe, she was having guilt trips and they made her confess of thy sins looool