Ok here's the thing. A couple of months ago I met someone. We started hanging out and I really liked her so I told her. But she was like "I like you too but I don't wanna rush and let's take it slow" and blah blah stuff like that. Last night we went out for a drink and at some point her phone rang and she excused herself and went to the restroom to answer it which I thought was kinda weird. Then she told me it was her girlfriend.....and I was like...."seriously??" anyway, she said she met her 3 weeks ago and really hit it off etc... I just said that's really nice, good for you and just couldn't wait till the night was over. I mean, why is it so hard to say "hey, I met somebody else"? And why would she keep going out with me when she started a relationship with some other girl? I can't say I'm hurt or anything like that, Ι've rather gone off. I just can't understand that kind of behaviour and I would like to know your opinion
You're honest, she's not so. If you accept that people aren't idealists, you won't be so disappointed or frustrated. Honesty is a very high standard, in my experience.
seriously? dishonesty is a dealbreaker for me - honesty is the #1 requirement on my list for anyone. I could not care less what she looks like or about many things but lie to me and I will dump you faster than anything
I know, I've had far worse experiences than that, it's just that I can't get that sort of actions and behaviours. What I mean is I know what "let's take it slow" means most of the times, I'm not stupid. But I really don't understand why she kept seeing me since she didn't like me that much (apparently), let alone after she had found somebody else.... I don't know, maybe I sound naive to you or something but this whole thing is bizarre to me probably because I'm not like that at all
No you don't sound naive but my point is, you know the difference between how you are and how other people are. She sounds like a player. If you accept that's how some people are, it shouldn't disappoint or frustrate you. You just decide if that's what you want or not. And if not, you move right along.
I can't say that it disappoints or frustrates me but it certainly puzzles me over and estranges me. The way people do that is something like a mystery to me because I've never been able to do it and I don't think I will ever be...rightly or wrongly
Is she polygamous? Either way, she obviously doesn't take you seriously. She wants to go slow with you, while she's in another relationship? Sounds manipulative. Manipulation and dishonesty all in one is instant avoid and abandon. I'm not surprised sorry to say, I've seen lesbians who are in that position. You care, which gives you +100 lesbian points.
Well, I don't know if she's polygamous, she didn't seem like it at the beginning. I'm definitely not though, and I don't intend to see her again. Thank you so much for the points!!!
I've been in this situation before, so I understand how it feels. She should have been straight up with you from the start. Simple as that. Dishonesty is horrid. I understand some people keep things from others in order to spare their feelings, but it's wrong to lead someone on when you know they have romantic feelings for you.
