OK I had a one year relationship with a guy who lives across the country from me. It was very rocky because we both fucked up A LOT. He was going to move to be near me but got offered a job he could not pass up on the east coast. I think the only reason the relationship was hard is because of the distance and me being a lot younger and insecure about it. He had a developed career at the time, I didn't (but do now) etc etc. Things ended in a really ugly way because of him accepting the job and my unwillingness to move. but recently we have began talking again and we obviously are still in love with one another. I flat out asked him to move here and he said no he would NEVER move here and that I should move there. I cannot move there because I have a kick ass career, all my family is out here, I have crazy bills etc. He has no ties to where he is right now except for a job that he hates yet said 'I have just as many reasons for not moving there as you have for not moving here'. IMO that is bullshit. I am from the school of if a guy loves you he will do anything to be with you, please you etc so he obviously does not love me;right? Should I move on and let go? I do love him a lot but I really cannot let anyone take advantage of me or my feelings and if he is unwilling to move and I cannot move then what is the point of continuing talking to him? Do you agree or am I being irrational? Do I need to just take a leap and move on and find somone new? I think he is perfect for me and could give me everything I have always wanted but if he's never going to be willing to be here to give it to me what is the point of putting myself through further agony?