Hi im new here and need some advice I am 21 and currently in a relationship with a girl i love, she is a bit of a big girl and has back problem due to a car crash years ago so has metal in her spine and she is the one i lost my virginity too, as my ex before her cheated on me before we ever had sex. My problem is since iv only slept with this once girl,and as she is a big girl i keep thinking about having sex and wanting to have sex with thinner girls or normal size girls as im curious what its like as one of my fantasies is the cowgirl position and my gf has problem doing this and obviously aint as flexible etc as some other girls would be, i am young and still full of hormones, are these thoughts normal and what should i do about them? i would never cheat on my gf as i love her to bits but i dont know what to do about these thoughts in my head. There is nothing wrong with big girls and love my gf just the way she is and being a big girl really doesnt bother me as i find her very sexually attractive, its just these thought keep coming up aswell as fantasies that im not sure my gf would be able to do. hope you guys wont be harsh with me just looking for some advice thanks
okay, so couple things. One is you're 21... You'll never be 21 again in your life. Your sexual peak is right now and supposedly it's only going to go downhill as you age. So is this really how you want to be spending these crucial years of your life? the few years you have to explore different woman, see what's out there, find out what you like and don't like, etc... The other aspect is you called out at least 3 times how she's "a big girl" and also she's the one who broke your virginity, yet you love her but want to explore but have feelings of guilt and blah blah blah... Honestly this sounds like a broken record and most people like me who have ran the block a few times are going to shake there head at what you are saying. I'll boil it down for you... This girl means something to you because she broke you in, I get that, and good for you & her. Is this really the person you potentially see marrying? If not then damn it man, get off your ass and go meet other people. See what else is out there. Seriously people are like shoes, you try a lot on and figure out a lot of things about them and yourself. Sure the first pair feel great as you've never had them before, but then you try others on, some are tight, some are loose, etc... Sooner or later you'll find some that are perfect or near perfect. But until you get past those first pair you'll never know...
