need advice preferably from men about how to be better in bed for my bf

Hi so my new partner and I seem to be having trouble with sex, backround is he is older than me by a few years but has a lot less sexual partners than me him 7 and me 23 partners, I have never had one single complaint about anything in the bedroom but this new bf and I seem to be having problems he is a little smaller than what I'm used to but I still love the sex , he claims to enjoy it too but once he actually got off after about a minute cause it didn't feel good he said I'm too loose and another time we argued cause he just wouldn't cum I don't know what to do we really love each other but I feel so insecure now and can't relax to enjoy sex since I can't be sure he likes it

 

Perhaps you could inquire about vaginal exercises. There are several systems to allow you to tighten yourself and gain better control of those muscles.

 

Sounds like you have a saggy gaping vagina and so fucking it is like sticking his dick in a jar of warm mayo.

Try anal....unless that is also saggy and gaping.

 

Lol, the advice preferably from men part was your first mistake

 

I take it you had sex on previous occasions, and he didn't mention you feeling loose? Have you mentioned your previous lovers? Several thing to consider. But you say you love each other. Try other things.

 

Heavy shoes. Seriously. Even in my open phase with time I had 2 guys in one day, every guy commented on how amazingly tight I was. I had also been using platform shoes for years so I could reach the grown up cereal in the grocery store. The added shoe weight, as it turns out, was an old trick the courtesans of japan used to keep clients coming back for more.

And tight or loose, if he has a kink you haven't explored with him, he may be feeling under-enthusiastic. I'm not saying you should run to a sex shop and go nuts, but every guy has psychological triggers that contribute to enjoyment as well as the actual acts. If you can find his mental trigger, be it as simple as a pretty pair of panties or something a bit more wild, then his body will respond as well.

Ask a former lover for honest critique. Why did one of the 23 enjoy you? What did you do well? what were you weak at?

And if these tips fail, even with you making the effort, consider that he has more problems then you expected. Telling you outright that you don't feel good sounds a bit emotionally abusive. Leaving you to know that you are not doing it for him, yet not telling you how you can do it for him sounds not only asinine, but also idiotic. If these are acts of control or intentional humiliation on his part, but not something you consent to, that out right irresponsible. There may be a really good reason this guy had so few lovers, and it may just be that he doesn't know what HE'S doing if he can't communicate his needs to you.