I'm hoping someone can help me out here as I can't find any answers. I have been seeing someone for 9mths she was living with her ex as they had a house together. They have no been in a relationship for over 12mths or so I'm told. She has decided to move out and move back to her place which I helped her move into as I was told that she wanted to do this for us. Have known this woman for over 10yrs and had a fling with her back then, she and her other ex had split up and we met, 2mths after that she was back with her ex, we still remained friends for the 10yrs. Now with this ex she has left the home they had together for about 1mth now an she told me we can start a future together,she told me the only contact she will have with her ex is to put there house on the market to sell. Just recently I have found out she has been talking to her ex and has been seeing her, she has even stayed over night with her ex. I have confronted her and she got on the defensive side. She told me the only reason she was at her exes was to talk to a finanical adviser about selling the house, but she stayed the night as well. Since then she has told me she just wants to be friends with me until the house is sold, before her excuse was she was still living with her ex now its something else. She has said that her ex abuses her. I have been this womans rock, I have believed every word she has told me but then she changes her mind. I sked if I can come and visit or stay overnight and she has said no. Told me I need to ask her first to come and see her not just turn up. Her family and friends do not like her ex but they love me,they want us to be together but she still wants her ex as well. Am I being played for a fool.
Pair of graphs. Pair o' graphs. Pair a' graphs. PARAGRAPHS! Paragraphs are my friends! They can be yours too! :2thumbsup: But since you havn't and you seem to need some help, let me change that for you. In some cases as much as you like someone you're better off cutting all ties and let them go adrift to their own destiny. Something that even I have had difficulty with is that sometimes we can have good friends that last forever, and sometimes we have good friends that last for only a short while. We have to know when to let our friends go, because by hanging on there really is little to no value to us or our relationship, as we are hindering not only our growth, but the growth of our friends, which is not what a friend does. Sometimes ya just gotta let go, dude.
Sounds like you are her rebound/transitional guy. She depends on you when she needs help and then goes back to her ex's when things are not so bad. Basically she is using you. If you want to stay friends that is up to you, but I do not think you should think of her romantically. She is only invested in you to bail her out. She is not romantically invested in you. my 2 cents. PS I agree with Logan about paragraphs being your friend. It is hard for many people to read big blocks of text.
