My fiancee and I have had sex twice now, both our firsts. The first time was about 3 months ago at my house, with no one home. It lasted about 20 minutes and was fantastic, although my bed is quite noisy during coitus. The second time was last night at her house, with everyone sleeping. This time I had alot of diffficulty gaining entrance into her pussy. I was wearing a condom this time and we had some very good lube, but she was very tense, and her vagina became even tighter than it already was. Getting in was painful for her, and I offered to stop, but she didn't want to. When I was in, I began to get nervous, because I could tell I was still hurting her. Again, I said we could stop, but she urged me to continue. I guess me being nervous affected my stamina, because after about 4 minutes of shallow thrusting, I came. I tend to last MUCH longer than that. Does anyone have any suggestions about loosening her up/ helping her relax? Any suggestions about places to have sex, that have little to no chance of being caught? How can I get her vagina to relax more? How can I get inside her more easily? I also tend to slide out of her, and I know it's not because my penis is small, mine is about 7 inches, and quite thick. Am I just pulling out too far? Something funny I wasn't sure was that possible: I actually almost pushed it into her asshole without either of us noticing, I didn't know that mistake could be made that easily! lol Advice is very much appreciated! Feel free to share similar experiences.
First, she told you repeatedly not to stop. Let this be a lesson for you in the future. Most women like a little pain during sex, and that generally leads to pleasure-pain ... so don't wimp out. You're a man right? Well, bring it! I hate when guys are too timid and say "Oh, I'm hurting you, we should stop" If you break and enter, do it with confidence and firmness. That by the way, also helps with the loosening. Pump her firmly and deeply, and when the endorphins rush in to address the pain it will create pleasure pain that will lead to more lubrication and widening -- well, at least that's my personal experience. The first love of my life FUCKED THE HELL OUT OF ME on our first night. And at first I was scared and in my mind calling out for God to rescue me... then it began to feel great and despite feeling sore, conquered and 'taken' I had much respect for him as A MAN. And fell deeper in love with him that night. Meanwhile, enjoy the tightness but don't back down from it. Dominate. (can't you guys splurge on a hotel occassionally? So she can have the liberty to scream as you go full speed ahead?) Lastly, as far as your falling out. Here's a lesson I like to impart to guys: Don't focus on pulling half out and thrusting in. Heat is created by skin on skin contact. So you want to have as much contact as possible. If you're pulling half out, think about it -- you're out 50 percent of the time! Focus on getting in there closer and closer to her. If you think of it from that perspective, your pumping is strong and you pull out just enough to firmly thrust in further. Think about getting closer, closer, deeper, deeper. DO NOT focus on speed and backing out. And speed should be slow to medium... save the fast for the end as you're about to come. This should create heat, friction, closeness, pleasure-pain and a really great intimate time. Good luck and let us know how it goes!
