Ok i'll try keep this short and hope it doesn't get all too complicated. I was at a wedding and i met my cousins best friend, we instantly hit it off we start chatting the next day for months. We both like each other but there was a complication so we kept it friendly but also flirty. This went on for a while up until new year last year.She was saying that she likes me even when she had a boyfriend but there was so complications it was hard. My cousin also said she was head over hells for me. So its new year's day(2010) and she tells me shes going to my anties house to spend it with my cousins as there best friends, so my parents are going up so i says i'll come up and see her. So i ended up staying the night and we stayed up till 5-6 in the morning talking having a laugh but she had a boyfriend it was a no go. So we text for the next month or so and then it went quite. She broke up with her boyfriend but got another one a while after. (She did speak to me on MSN every so often and i also spoke to her but as she had a boyfriend so it was just casual talk.) So its now coming up to new years (2011), we started speaking about a month before had and all the feelings started to come back with all the good times we had. But she had another boyfriend as i began to get busy we lost contact . So she was saying that she was going up to my cousins again on new years and begged me to go up and i did. So she was saying to my cousin again that she still likes me and am better and nicer looking than her boyfriend and my cousin told me this. So a few days after new year they broke up. So am thinking i have a real shot now and we spoke but then it seems that because shes single again i get pushed to the back of the pile like all the other times and a whole new aray of oppertunity's become available. I ain't really been in a relationship but am not scared to commit. We havn't really spoke for a few days since they broke up. Not really sure what to do if i should ask her round or wait, but it tends to be when i wait and give them time i always end up last and someone else jumps in. What are your views? What should i do?
The answer is in this line: "but it tends to be when i wait and give them time i always end up last and someone else jumps in."
um, if she just got out of a relationship a few days ago, then you need to hold your horses. be sexy and mysterious, play a little hard to get. wait a few days to contact her.
Talk to her about it, honesty and being open about your feelings and the way you have viewed the past tends to bring out how other people feel too. Tell her you want to be with her, but are afraid that she is not ready, and that you are willing to wait for her, but are scared she is going to find someone else? Why not send her this thread? Along with some kind of explanation about your feelings.
I'd go for it sooner then later. At least tell her how you feel, whats the worst that can happen? She tells you she's not interested and then your not any worse off then you are now and you can move on and stop wondering.
She sounds like she can't be alone. I'd wonder what that says about a potential relationship with you. Also, if she likes you that much, why hasn't she said anything any of the times that she's been single?
i always though "female trouble" referred to menstruation... lol, she'll be fucking some other random guy long before then. probably because he doesn't want to admit to a potential girlfriend that he's a member of an internet forum for "hippies..." my advice: move on. bitches that pretend to be interested in you but end up with someone else every time you make a move are NOT worth anybody's time. insecure cunts, all of them.
That's what I was going to say, except I wasn't sure whether the OP was actually talking about the girl or himself when he said, "but then it seems that because shes single again i get pushed to the back of the pile like all the other times and a whole new aray of oppertunity's become available." It does sound like it's about the girl.
If she liked you so much why didn't she call you when she broke up with her 1st boyfriend? Then she found another and another. She is either playing you, psycho, or has no idea what she wants. Any f those three is not a good mix to be in a relationship with.
1. Woman ARE trouble. No exceptions. 2. You snooze you lose. Do you really "need" our advice? In the end it's up to you.
