When I first moved to the South 5 years ago I made friends with a guy who helped me to feek grounded in this unfamiliar place and he had my back. We met on the job and eventually went in different directions job wise but we always kept in touch at least once a month. Our friendship had an interesting dynamic because we had nothing at all in common. He was a southern black hustler that had his hands in all kinds of stuff and made money a million different ways. I'm a white weirdo that practices magic and collects tarantulas. In spite of this we made a connection and trusted one another. We were so connected that last month when he didn't answer my call I knew something was wrong. It bothered me so much that I woke up at 5am and googled his name almost knowing that I would find something. Sure enough I sat in my chair in the dark and read several news articles that had his picture telling the story of his tragic death. The articles all said the same thing. He was at his favorite local hangout applebees when he and another man had some sort of arguement that got them kicked out. Apparently they pulled out of the parking lot and went int the road at an intersection and parked their vehicles right there and got out and began to fight. Mind you this fight took place at 3am and there was very little traffic at that hour. As they were fighting a vehicle came by and they fell down in front of this car and they were both killed instantly on impact with the vehicle. As a practitioner of magic this is what is bothering me. My friend died probably without knowing what hit him and as he was taking his final breathe he was in the midst of what must have been a very hate filled intense angry brawl. I worry how this may have affected his crossing the veil and I am disturbed by the thought that he may be trapped in that moment, still fighting this guy and possible not knowing he is a spirit. I have considered going to the location where they were killed and pouring some black destroyer oil on the road, as well as peace water and maybe even holy water. Then doing a quick smudging while just talking out lout to both of them. I know exactly what I would say but my concern is that the cops patrol that area pretty heavily and not to mention his friends and family are all over that area as well. My fear is that someone may see me doing this and be offended by these actions because his family is christian and then the cops can be pretty crappy out here, not all of them but you get what I mean. I don't want to make anyone mad or get harrassed by law enforcement performing a pagan ritual here in the bible belt but the thought of him in torment is messing with me.
did you know any members of his family? you could maybe contact them (wait a week or two, maybe) and ask them if they would be okay with it. let them know that it is a respectful ritual and that it is part of your grieving process.
Well obviously I am but it's not as though I shouldn't be. My buddy got killed in a fist fight, left his wife and two kids behind and he was only 36 so yeah I'm tormented. By what means do you assure me that he is not tormented? Have you done a reading? I was going to do one on myself but I beleive my emotional connection to the situation would impact the outcome.
