I'm not a fan. I know there are many guys that get off on harsh language during sex. It turns me off. I guess I am more into gentle sexual encounters. Your thoughts?
Yeah, there's talking dirty and then there's being crass and insulting - one hell of a turn-off. First time a guy said to me, "Yeah, suck my dick, bitch!" resulted in him getting his nose broken. I put a terrible whupping on a guy for calling me a good little girl while I was blowing him. Just don't say anything - let me suck your dick and get you off and save your "pillow talk" for someone who might like it.
I’m the same way. I treat others with respect and expect the same. I would never think of degrading someone especially during sex. And I won’t put up with it.
I enjoy some idle "dirty talk" while I'm sucking his cock, it turns me on and motivates me to do the best I can. Being told what to do is perfectly fine as I want to provide to him what he enjoys the most. Abusive talk, no thanks.
If the scenario calls for it, like dominatix roleplay,etc. Neither of my bi partners were rude douchbags. All I ever heared was moans and grunting when cumming. I believe its a matter of respect, in any situation.
I'm with you, Pgbadboy. I'm TOTALLY into genital encounters! Oh, wait. You said "gentle". Here I am in agreement with KDaddy23 (which seems to be happening a lot, despite my being here less than 24 hours) and I won't tolerate insulting or demeaning talk. Try that shit with me or mine and there's gonna be a tussle. For reals. That being said, you may have noticed, dear readers, that my manner of speaking (same as my writing) means you probably shouldn't take me to church or into polite company. I enjoy talk that might be labeled 'earthy' and think that's entirely appropriate in a sexual setting. (Or, hell, at the dinner table in my case, seeing as how I apparently lack any sort of filter.) So although no one will ever hear me hear me politely query, "Pardon me sir, but may I insert my penis into your anus?", you're gonna hear things like, "Oh, God, I really need to fuck your sexy ass!". (Although probably not during first introductions. I are swave and deboner!)
I’ve had a few occasions when a guy starts angrily calling me names while I have his cock in my mouth, while he is feeling good. I don’t understand that and worry if this is the kind of guy who would get violent suddenly also.
I'm entirely with you. Degrading, hurtful language is an instant buzzkill for me. If you treat me like some subjugated enemy instead of our lover, don't be surprised if I react in kind.
Like others here, I like to sometimes give and receive some dirty talk, but only sometimes. I'm more of a sensual lover, though quite passionate. I definitely don't enjoy aggressiveness, either physically or verbally. I was in a bathhouse last year, walking through the mazes, when this black dude approached me, with his huge cock, which I welcomed, but then he became very aggressive fucking my throat, holding my head and really giving my throat a pounding, and calling me his bitch. Deepthroating his cock was fine, because I've gotten quite good at that, even some quite long and thick cocks, but that kind of behaviour was a turn off, and I quickly got away from him.
I've told many a guy, "My name isn't Bitch..." before getting up and walking away. Or having to tell a guy, "I'm not a girl... so why are you talking to me like I am? We had a nice thing going but you just had to go and fuck it up..."
Talking dirty to me while getting a blowjob is one thing, if you become aggressive and verbally degrading, I am going to stop pleasuring you.
