My live in girlfriend (I call her my wife) is sexually obsessed with a man at work. She tells me that for the last year every time she gets dressed in the morning she is thinking about him. When she gets a hair cut its for him..and when she buys cloths. Even when she masturbates she is thinking about him. Our sex life has not been good for about two years now. I have told her that if sleeping with him is the only way for her to work out her feeling for me and for him than she should go and sleep with him. I don’t think she has yet but I am not sure. She had been into him for six months before she told me about him. When she goes to her work parties she goes without me because of him. I know she tells her gf’s about him but I am not sure of what she tells them really. Strangely I know my gf loves me. I love her also. I would stay with her if our sex life got better and she was open with me. I know something has to change with us. I have been asking her to figure it out for a long time now. I really hope she does. I would love to have someone to talk to about this. I would really like to hear peoples thoughts on this…Please write.
well, sounds as if she's being selfish and not taking your feelings into consideration. I guess marriage counseling would be your best bet.
Hey bud maybe you need a girl that is just as into you as your girl is into her boss. I mean a fantasy is one thing. But it is quite another to obses openly in front of your loved one. When does she think of you? When are you the most important thing to her? Most women will tell you. After 2 years if you are not talking marriage at some point you are just wasting your time. Where are you two going? If this is what you want then fine enjoy it.
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I agree with Annie. It is nice that she was able to communicate to you that she has had a thing for her boss, but it sounds like it is turning into obsession...getting dressed for him? Hair cuts for him? Where is her concern for you and your relationship together?
youve allowed yourself to beleive that you dont deserve someones full attention. well, you do. and as much as you love her and she 'loves you,' something tells me that its not just your sex life suffering. your technically SHARING your 'wife'.. is that really okay with you? does that REALLY not strike you as hurtful or anything? you know you deserve better and thats why you made this forum. you wanted the justification that its alright to feel like this isnt alright. well im telling you, like everyone else on here, that you deserve better. take the time, and go get it.
There's a big difference between loving a person and being in love with them. Your wifes not in love with you anymore. Either have an open relationship (where you also have sex with other partners) or Move on.
Just to share my experience with you: I am 24, I have few lasting relationships. I am in one now. I can't think about anybody else but him. He knows that. I know that. BUT, in my previous relationship, which lasted for 2 years, things were not that great. So what happened, I just started about thinking about other men. I was not thinking about him as much and as often, because I was not into him anymore. No matter how he wanted us to stay together, my mind did not want that. The bottomline is (at least from my own experience),. when you are in a relationship and everything is great, you are not looking for someone else, thinking about someone else. I would never tell my current b/f that i dress for another man. it will break his heart. So, may be your g/f is just not into you anymore, may be she is afraid to end things because she attached to you,and does not want to break out of the comfort zone. May be you should just make it easier on her and let her go?!!
Wow.. I'm sorry but she sounds like such a selfish bitch who really doesn't care about your feelings at all. Why would you want to spend your life with someone like that?
